There is a young girl I know who is a green belt in TKD. Recently with changes in her life (university, etc.) she has been unable to continue with her TKD because of time contraints.
I had the opportunity of meeting her mom a week or so back and we started talking about Martial Arts, etc. This girl's mother is adament about her daughter continuing with her martial arts instruction because she hasn't, in her mother's words "finished" yet. When I asked what she meant by this she told me that she believes you finish what you started and to this woman the finish line was the black belt. The daughter has little desire anymore for TKD, at least not at this time and was getting visibly upset with the way her mother was referring to her as "giving it all up" and "wasting all that time"
Needless to say I was a little speechless and was biting my tongue as well. I would love to try and give this girl some sound advice and perhaps some help in dealing with her mother's perception regarding a black belt. The young lady hasn't closed the door completely at this point, my biggest fear is that she will because of her mother's insistence of it.
Words of wisdom greatly appreciated.
I had the opportunity of meeting her mom a week or so back and we started talking about Martial Arts, etc. This girl's mother is adament about her daughter continuing with her martial arts instruction because she hasn't, in her mother's words "finished" yet. When I asked what she meant by this she told me that she believes you finish what you started and to this woman the finish line was the black belt. The daughter has little desire anymore for TKD, at least not at this time and was getting visibly upset with the way her mother was referring to her as "giving it all up" and "wasting all that time"
Needless to say I was a little speechless and was biting my tongue as well. I would love to try and give this girl some sound advice and perhaps some help in dealing with her mother's perception regarding a black belt. The young lady hasn't closed the door completely at this point, my biggest fear is that she will because of her mother's insistence of it.
Words of wisdom greatly appreciated.