Crazy like a...
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- Jan 16, 2006
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Adoption is not an easy process, emotionally, financially, or practically. And that's if there are no complicating factors, like special needs or cross-race. Or issues like some rulings and decisions that have said that the birth parents can revoke their consent for an unforgivably long period... so that the kid someone's been loving and raising for years can suddenly be yanked away. It's not easy for the birth parent, either, to let go off their child.
Adoptive parents, as well as the birth parents who recognize that for whatever reason they cannot care for the child properly, deserve to be praised. Adoption should be more effective encouraged, though I admit that I don't know how it can be done.
I have some ideas as to how it can be done, but it would take a lot of people pushing for it. I can't picture that happening because adoption is seen by too many folks in the U.S. as an undesirable option.
There is the spritual support. I don't know of any organized religion that will hold up adoption as service to the Lord. But especially in days like now when we see values breaking down and families eroding...isn't giving a child wihtout parents a permanent family one of the most important things one can do? And because not everyone can, or will, that only increases its importance.
Another element is corporate support. The Canadian company I worked for offerend an adoption benefit...up to (some monetary amount) something like that to defray the legal costs of adoption, I think there may have even been a situation where you could be granted an extra day or two of paid leave to address the scheduled matters regarding the adoption of the child, although that leave would run concurrent with unpaid FMLA. I understand that in the economy, many companies are cutting benefits...but how expensive is agreeing to pay for a benefit that their employees may never use?
I thnk more support could be given to potential adoptive parents to help navigate the legal process...perhaps a way to track online the status of your paperwork, or a network of people that had already adopted in the state that were willing to give an hour or two a week helping potentially adoptive parents.
What about tax incentive for adopting...esp. older children, or tax credits (not deductions) for said legal costs? It costs the goverment money to keep the child in foster care, it could be more cost-effective in the long run to encourage parents to adopt.
There is some support from the U.S. Government, adoption is a qualifying condition for unpaid FMLA, the US DHHS is running PSAs encouraging people that you don't have to be perfect to be a perfect parent.
Unfortunately I think the trouble with helping parents who would at least be willing to consider adoption is more than the costs in the way, it is also the paradigms.