This is a tale of horror, so I apologize in advance.
In the early eighties I was running a large, full time dojo. There were well over a hundred adults and about sixty kids. I'm sitting in the office one day while class is going on. A single mom comes in with her son, Jay. He looks to be nine years old. He's wearing a neck brace and some sort of halo thing attached to braces on his teeth. He has an eerie pale complexion and a lost look in his eyes. The mom wants to inquire about classes for the boy. The three of us chat for a bit, (he barely speaks), then we have him go watch class while her and I talk.
I find out he's twelve years old, not nine. I ask her about his medical condition. She tells me that he's been on anti-seizure medication since the day he was born, as he apparently had a seizure on the day of his birth. I asked her when the last time that had been checked. She said it hadn't. I tell her I need a report from that doctor - she tells me he's passed away. I tell her I need a report and letter from a physician stating that her son is safe for heavy exercise and contact sports. She says okay.
They come back in a couple weeks later. Jay has been removed from that medication, and he already looks much better. His eyes are bright, but he's still very introverted. We start in the kids beginners class. I assign a couple of the veteran kids to take Jay under their wings. They're great kids and do so in a friendly, quiet manner.
Flash forward six months. Jay has grown over four inches. His school marks have improved from Ds to Bs. He never misses class and starts to come out of his shell. I hear him laughing for the first time. He makes his yellow belt.
Flash forward another six months, Jay has put on weight, grown some more and speaks up with confidence whenever asked a question. It's the kind of thing that makes you proud to be involved in teaching. He's a joy to have in the dojo. He asks if he can come and watch a tournament. We get the okay from mom and he comes along with thirty of us to a big competition. At the end of the day he says, "I want to compete." We get the okay from mom and start training him for it.
Flash forward another year. He's a purple belt now. He's getting all A's in school. I've gone up to his school and his teachers have told me what a remarkable change there's been in him. He leads class projects, all the kids love him, nobody picks on him anymore - and the young gals think he's the coolest thing. He's competed in a dozen tournaments by now, placed several times and won his division three different times. He's assisting the assistant instructors in the teaching of the kids beginners class, and he takes special interest in helping the more introverted, less athletic kids. I'm so proud of him I could just bust!
So, it's been a little over two years that he's been a student. What an absolute pleasure it's been. Then, one day in class he collapses and starts crying. He didn't physically collapse, it was an emotional drop to the floor. I go over to take care of him, to see what was wrong. I bring him to the office, where he will hardly look at me and tells me he doesn't feel well. I call mom. She comes and gets him. She won't look at me either.
A week passes. I call the house but they don't answer or return my call. The next day one of their neighbors comes in to speak with me. She tells me that the mom took Jay to a dozen different doctors until she found one that would put him back on the medication he had been on as an infant. Incredulous, I ask why. The neighbor tells me "Because she was losing her little baby. And he was starting to pay more attention to girls, and to sports than he was to mom. And she wouldn't stand for that."
I didn't believe what I was hearing. I called everyone I could think of. I called the American Medical Association, Child Services, Department of Youth Services, the Church, my state rep, my Congressman, my Senator, his school, his teachers, the police - I called everyone. They all checked into it but gave me the same response, "If he has a prescription, there's nothing you can do about it." I went at it for three months. I struck out. In that three months Jay became a zombie again. Started to fail in all his school subjects. The teachers tried to speak to the mom - so she changed schools.
I never got over that evil. It made me want to quit teaching. I found out ten years later that life didn't turn out so well for Jay. Like that's a surprise.
That's the worst thing that's ever happened to me in the Arts. Maybe even in life. Ah, well, I guess we can't save them all. But it still hurts to think about.