The subject line of this post comes from a discussion I had with a coworker who wanted to get into wing chun with me. Only thing is, he wanted ME to teach him. I objected for several reasons. 1) I don't even know the whole system so how can I teach him as if I am a Sifu?
I believe the reason he wanted you to teach him is found in point 3, because since you aren't a full teacher then he expects you to do it for free. But in regards to you teaching him even though you aren't a full instructor, I don't have a real issue with it. I mean you have told him you aren't a full instructor, your not giving him rank, your not really misrepresenting yourself. So I would consider him a workout partner, and to get a workout partner you might need to train the person. No big deal. UNLESS your school has something in it's bylaws/rules or what have you that prohibits such actions.
I wouldn't think your instructor would be upset because
1) You haven't passed yourself off as an instructor, giving rank etc. etc.
2) The guy wasn't going to your instructor and seeking to be a student in the first place, it's not like he is losing any money out of it.
3) By training with you, you might encourage and spark an interest in the art for the guy who, would then go and seek out instruction from your sifu and become a class mate of yours.
2) It's kind of disrespectful to my Sifu. HE is the one who put in all the years to earn that title...so here I come along, knowing only 4 forms and not so great at chi sao as I should be, and I'm going to train someone?
I think it is disrespectful only if you thought of yourself as a teacher and took money away from him by promoting yourself as such. But you haven't. The guy approaches you through a discussion between you two. I take it, it's not like he was checking into your school, and he approached you about your school and you said "hey I'm of this rank train with me." Instead it sounds more like water cooler type of conversation and the guy says "hey that sounds cool maybe you could train me?" Thinking he could try it out, no commitment, no contracts, no hassle and he feels safe with you.
One of my arnis students before she was a black belt met a WC guy and he wanted to learn arnis. He couldn't come to my classes, so she started working with him in her garage; not that she needed it, but she asked and told me about it and I gave her my blessing. I mean this guy wasn't going to be a student of mine anyway so what did it hurt. In fact it helped her by making her look more deeply into her art when he asked questions as to why we do this or why that.
I tell my students; GM Remy would always tell us to find a workout partner and teach them, it made us better practitioners of the art, ultimately better teachers as well. I encourage my students to do the same.
3) This is one reason I didn't tell my friend, but it would kind of be a slap in the face to myself to train him because he expected me to do it free of charge. After all the money I shell out to go, why would I do that?
This is the crux of the matter, you shouldn't. If the guy is expecting you to seriously train him in the role of a teacher and not just a workout partner and he wants you to do it for free. Forget it. He is not respecting you nor valuing your instruction, skill, time, or whatever. Note I differentiate between workout partner and teacher/trainee. In regards to workout partners your using them like they are using you, I get to practice my techniques on them and to do that then I have to show them things and instruct them so I get the right responses for the feedback I'm looking for etc etc.
However if I training them or teaching them then my forefront focus should be on them not on my training with them.
This is why to me this is a problem, it can be very frustrating for you as the skilled player to be training a newbie for a workout partner. You must have clear boundaries, clear vision of what the roles are and what is expected of each party. Because it is one thing for me to show my karate buddies some arnis on the side and us to work out. It is another thing to set up weekly workouts and try and teach them arnis because I take it very seriously and if they don't and I'm doing it for free then it is very frustrating for both parties. I'm speaking about friends here, much less a co-worker who expressed possibly some interest in the art I devote a good portion of my time and effort to. I've been down this road with co-workers who were martial artists/semi friends before. It is a pain. However it still kept me practicing the art during dry times as well.
When I mentioned the first point to him, he said, "Well the people who developed the style didn't have teachers before them who said they couldn't teach because they didn't know the system!"
Well that is the reason you have teaching licenses and such that allow you to teach openly. In days gone by you didn't just leave your school and start teaching because someone could very well challenge you, from your old school, or other schools in the area; it was put up or shut up time.
However he is wrong, the teachers in the past did have teachers before them such as Funakoshi (father of Shotokan) had his teacher Itosu and others; GM Remy (founded Modern Arnis) had his teachers such as his grandfather, Bacon, and others; Ueshiba (founded aikido) was a master in another style before he started Aikido and so on and so on.
Just out of curiosity, how would you counter a statement like that? Or would you just say nothing and walk away from the discussion? I know what I lean toward, but I was wondering what others would make of this statement.
How I would counter that statement was that the individual was wrong, but I would expect him to be. People seem to think that especially in martial arts (because of the emphasis on lineage) that knowledge developed in a vacuum so to speak. That one day a person all of the sudden got some enlightenment and all of the knowledge to start their own unique style. But the truth is they learned stuff from someone else (many times several people) and packaged it per their own understanding and then created their method. Some times they had teaching licenses from prior styles sometimes not. For instance I doubt that the Koreans who studied Japanses karate in the 30-40's (prior to WW2) had teaching licenses (in Japanese karate) prior to starting their own Korean Martial Arts (Moo Duk Kwan, Tang So Do etc. etc.) they just did. GM Remy didn't have teaching certs, or licenses, he had his fighting ability and his own unique experience learning the FMAs and Modern Arnis was born.
In regards to saying nothing and just dismissing him, I think walking away from the guy would just make you look arrogant.