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[Xue Sheng]

And with that…. Goodnight MT

 

[HighKick]

I think that's the key. I need to hang out with people who aren't going to encourage me to go back to my old life. It's tough as I miss my old friends, but I can't be around that stuff because of my own history.

I can't say I was ever 'living in the gutter' but I had a Lot of friends who lived pretty rough. More than a few drug users and dealers. Heavy drinkers and more than a few who lived a sketchy, often illegal life. Some of them are my most cherished friends to this day. But I knew I had to physically separate from them if I wanted the kind of life I desired. I had conversations with several of them about this fact and without exception, they all understood.
But even that comes with ramifications I had to consider.
When I became a LEO, this separation had to intensify. I knew it would have been fairly easy to get some of my friends in real trouble. I decided to take a 'live and let live' mindset and talked several of my old friends, making it clear that as long as they did not give me any reason to go after them, I would leave them alone. And while some of them did eventually get in trouble for their own dealings, I never had to cross paths with any of them. It was sad to watch at times but also gratifying to realize I had become a better person over time, knowing that it could have been me if I had made other choices.

Growing and maturing is part of the human process. No one said it was always going to be peaches and cream though. Being honest with oneself, thinking things through to the realistic and factual end, and simply accepting them as fact makes things easier for me. No waffling or 'what-iffing' that Maybe things will be different the next time. Let's be honest, how often does it work out that way?

 

[Monkey Turned Wolf]

I think that's the key. I need to hang out with people who aren't going to encourage me to go back to my old life. It's tough as I miss my old friends, but I can't be around that stuff because of my own history.

An old saying around aa/rehab circles - if you hang out with barbers long enough, eventually you're going to get a hair cut.

 

[Xue Sheng]

Hello and Goodnight

 

[drop bear]

I think that's the key. I need to hang out with people who aren't going to encourage me to go back to my old life. It's tough as I miss my old friends, but I can't be around that stuff because of my own history.

You can. But just not in the environments that created those habits.

Take them for a bush walk or something.

I think being able to create that ability to have an activity is important but gets lost.

I find things like picnics kind of fun. And it worked well as a destination event. So I ride motorcycles. But I get to where I am going. Stare at the thing and ride back.

The default then becomes pubs.

But ride, picnic. Works well. Soaks up a bit of time to appreciate where you are.

 

[Prince_Alarming]

You can. But just not in the environments that created those habits.

Take them for a bush walk or something.

I think being able to create that ability to have an activity is important but gets lost.

I find things like picnics kind of fun. And it worked well as a destination event. So I ride motorcycles. But I get to where I am going. Stare at the thing and ride back.

The default then becomes pubs.

But ride, picnic. Works well. Soaks up a bit of time to appreciate where you are.

Hey that's a good idea, we could have a survival weekend in the woods

 

[Prince_Alarming]

I wanna get back into ruck marching. I did a lot of it as a teenager and it's something I kind of miss

 

[Xue Sheng]

Well, I have a minor tear in my rotator cuff
Options
1) Cortisone, Surgery and PT
2) Cortisone and PT
3) Acupuncture and PT

My wife is a Beijingren, and a TCM MD/PhD in China
Her she is an OMD/PhD

So I will choose option 3, and my orthopedic Doc is very happy with my choice

 

[Prince_Alarming]

3 miles with a 10kg dumbbell and about half my usual hiking load. I found an article about it on strongfirst.com

 

[_Simon_]

3 miles with a 10kg dumbbell and about half my usual hiking load. I found an article about it on strongfirst.com

Heeeeey I did something similar at end of last year preparing for my grading! Have done 10kg in a backpack running to the top of a mountain, but did a huge run around the mountain (uneven terrain, uphill, downhill, climbing rocks etc) just carrying a 10kg dumbbell, took 58 minutes and it was beyond gruelling... fun times and a great challenge!

 

[Prince_Alarming]

Heeeeey I did something similar at end of last year preparing for my grading! Have done 10kg in a backpack running to the top of a mountain, but did a huge run around the mountain (uneven terrain, uphill, downhill, climbing rocks etc) just carrying a 10kg dumbbell, took 58 minutes and it was beyond gruelling... fun times and a great challenge!

Cool! Gonna try that up on the mountain when I get fitter

 

[Prince_Alarming]

I'm no longer sure ordination is right for me. My sister's kids need someone who can be there more dependably than their father, and my parents need somebody strong enough to do fencing jobs and the like.