Along the same lines as "Asking a student to leave" how about telling your instructor he is fired.
I have made no attempt to hide the fact, here or anywhere else, that my daughter is simply in TKD, at this point in time, for the Olympic sport nature.
15 months ago when we left the school she had attended for the first 8.5 years of her TKD life, we left for several reasons. They ranged from no competition training to finding out that one of the Master's at a different dojang of our Grand Master's system of dojangs was on a leave of absence due to child molestation charges instead of due to his father's ill health as everyone was told.
When we signed on with our new school, the Master had just opened about 4-6 weeks earlier but he told us that he wanted to produce TKD athletes that could compete at the highest level possible.
My daughter was the first Black Belt in the school but he let us know that 1 other was going to be joining soon. And soon after, the other did show up. He came to 5 or 6 classes right off and in the year or so since, he has maybe been to 5 or 6 more classes.
A few other black belts have come and gone as well for various reasons. There is 1 other black belt that joined us about 10 months ago now, and she is in it primarily for the sport as well. Problem is that she is 10 and my daughter is 15. This other girl is very good and will likely go very far in the sport if she sticks to it. In fact last weekend she won silver at the US Open.
I can't help but believe that a big reason that she won silver was because for the past 10 months or so, her only real sparring partner has been my daughter who is considerably older, stronger, bigger, faster etc. In the meantime, my daughter was eliminated from the US Open in her first fight in large part because for the past 10 months or so, her only real sparring partner has been this 10 year old girl nearly a foot shorter and 25 pounds lighter.
The master also let go, perhaps the best competition minded asst coach my daughter has ever worked with, just 2 months or so into his job. He did not fire him, the assistant quit because the master would not let him teach the athletes the way he felt was proper.
Combine those factors with the fact that at a recent parents meeting the master made clear that he wants to open a dojang in every city in the area and expand, expand, expand and it seems clear to me that he is no longer focused on building a strong competition team and pursuing the sport side, but he would rather be a McDojang operator.
Good for him if he has decided he would rather get rich quick. But he knows why we signed on with him and what our goal is. At the time it was the same as his. To reach an elite level in the sport of TKD. That is no longer his goal and therefore it is time for us to move on.
So I invited him to lunch last week and we discussed these things and that I was removing my daughter from the school for these reasons. I did not call him a McDojang operator or tell him I thought he just wanted to get rich now. But I did say that it appears his goals have changed from what he had told me his goals were 15 months ago.
I really tried to keep things on the best terms possible but when our conversation ended he made it very clear that we would never be welcomed in his dojang again. I was offended that he would do such a thing as to say that we are no longer welcome in his presence. I suspect we will run into each other at various tournaments etc. I suspect those will be uncomfortable moments if he truly turns his back on my daughter as though she has somehow disrespected him.
Any advice for how to deal with those situations, when they do come up?
I have made no attempt to hide the fact, here or anywhere else, that my daughter is simply in TKD, at this point in time, for the Olympic sport nature.
15 months ago when we left the school she had attended for the first 8.5 years of her TKD life, we left for several reasons. They ranged from no competition training to finding out that one of the Master's at a different dojang of our Grand Master's system of dojangs was on a leave of absence due to child molestation charges instead of due to his father's ill health as everyone was told.
When we signed on with our new school, the Master had just opened about 4-6 weeks earlier but he told us that he wanted to produce TKD athletes that could compete at the highest level possible.
My daughter was the first Black Belt in the school but he let us know that 1 other was going to be joining soon. And soon after, the other did show up. He came to 5 or 6 classes right off and in the year or so since, he has maybe been to 5 or 6 more classes.
A few other black belts have come and gone as well for various reasons. There is 1 other black belt that joined us about 10 months ago now, and she is in it primarily for the sport as well. Problem is that she is 10 and my daughter is 15. This other girl is very good and will likely go very far in the sport if she sticks to it. In fact last weekend she won silver at the US Open.
I can't help but believe that a big reason that she won silver was because for the past 10 months or so, her only real sparring partner has been my daughter who is considerably older, stronger, bigger, faster etc. In the meantime, my daughter was eliminated from the US Open in her first fight in large part because for the past 10 months or so, her only real sparring partner has been this 10 year old girl nearly a foot shorter and 25 pounds lighter.
The master also let go, perhaps the best competition minded asst coach my daughter has ever worked with, just 2 months or so into his job. He did not fire him, the assistant quit because the master would not let him teach the athletes the way he felt was proper.
Combine those factors with the fact that at a recent parents meeting the master made clear that he wants to open a dojang in every city in the area and expand, expand, expand and it seems clear to me that he is no longer focused on building a strong competition team and pursuing the sport side, but he would rather be a McDojang operator.
Good for him if he has decided he would rather get rich quick. But he knows why we signed on with him and what our goal is. At the time it was the same as his. To reach an elite level in the sport of TKD. That is no longer his goal and therefore it is time for us to move on.
So I invited him to lunch last week and we discussed these things and that I was removing my daughter from the school for these reasons. I did not call him a McDojang operator or tell him I thought he just wanted to get rich now. But I did say that it appears his goals have changed from what he had told me his goals were 15 months ago.
I really tried to keep things on the best terms possible but when our conversation ended he made it very clear that we would never be welcomed in his dojang again. I was offended that he would do such a thing as to say that we are no longer welcome in his presence. I suspect we will run into each other at various tournaments etc. I suspect those will be uncomfortable moments if he truly turns his back on my daughter as though she has somehow disrespected him.
Any advice for how to deal with those situations, when they do come up?
