Originally posted by tonbo
Me, I would walk away. Why? A number of reasons:
I have a wife and two kids, a good job, and quite a happy life. I don't want to risk damaging any of that by going to jail or going to court after being sued for using excessive force, or for hurting some poor schmoe beyond what was necessary.
I don't have that big of an ego. Someone pushes me, *they* have a problem, not me. If I have offended someone by walking on their turf, I'll apologize. If I step on toes, I'll apologize. It isn't worth getting in a fight over someone's perceived slight. If I have to back down a little bit and look like a wimp, and if this will save a little bloodshed, hell.....my ego can take a swipe. I'll recover from that.
Now, on the other hand....if someone *seriously* threatens my life, my family, or the lives/safety of others, and there is no way to talk the situation down, *then* I will open up the can. I will open only as much as needs to be used, and then stop. If I have hurt someone seriously as a result, I will do what I can to fix that--I am not an executioner, nor is anyone's future mine to decide.
In short, I have lived through enough experiences to realize that there are always those who want a fight......but they most often don't fight, and *can't* fight, someone who admits they made a mistake and back down. If they are deadly serious about something, then they are most often desperate, and need to be handled appropriately.
Most fights (especially the schoolyard variety) are all about ego and one person not wanting to back down. I don't advocate being a wimp 100% of the time, but I don't think you need to risk the good things *you* may have to prove how cool or tough you are.
Ask yourself honestly: What can your ego handle? Is the fight worth saving the ego?
Peace--