There is one thing that I've noticed in this thread as missing, what about endurance? All the speed, strength, technique etc... is worth nothing if you can't hold your own for more than a few minutes (and I have sparred some guys that were easily 150+ pounds more than me, way stronger and probably way meaner, but were huffing and puffing after minutes).
That being said its not speed or strength that matters, but the whole package. Thinking otherwise is gonna leave you counting lights on a dojo ceiling, while the bigger/smaller, but better trained competitor/martial artist/whatever is mopping the floor with you.