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I'm not sure if this deserves a thread of it's own as I may just be rambling but it stems from another thread that was recently posted 'Knife Fighting Lies'. Lie 3 to be exact:
I've bolded the parts that stood out most for me with the whole thing quoted to give context. According to this it says the people who 'fantasize' (I'm not sure if that's the word I'd choose) about situations with knife work are likely to seek out those situations or blind themselves to escape options.
Now I'm a day dreamer, it's one of my strengths especially when it comes to MA training. In class we are encouraged to visualize an opponent to try create an adrenaline surge and train our techs/responses based on those visualizations. How is that different to fantasizing? I know the words themselves have different connotations but in the context of MA, surely imagining an opponent and how they may attack is the same as fantasizing? I look at it as a way of exploring as many possible options as you can outside of the classroom environment. Not just visualisations either, when I get together with other students to train, we invariably do some free form drills to see if we could apply what we'd learnt and what works for us.
I for one can say for sure that I'm not interested in seeking out confrontations (armed or otherwise), I'm going to be relying primarily on my intuition, awareness, verbal deescalation skills or escape options unless there is an immediate threat to someone I care about. That being said, the whole point of training these skills is so that you CAN use them if you failed in all of the above mentioned aspects somehow right?
Little confused, some thoughts would be much appreciated! Thanks in advance
Lie #3 "But what if I'm cornered?"
Common sense tells us that knife fighting is dangerous. And yet, like a dog circling a bear's den -- where a smarter part of it knows not to wake that sleeping bear, yet another, more instinctive part is urging it on -- many people who train in knife fight have the same torn desires. One of the biggest issues goading these people is Do they have what it takes?".
Unlike dogs, however, human beings have the ability for self-deception and rationalization. And one of the ways that we human fool ourselves is that we fantasize about situations where we would be able to give ourselves permission to find out if we "have it." Such people strongly resist the idea that knife fighting is a bad place to go. It is literally as though they are seeking to find an excuse.
One of the strongest indicator of this fantasy mindset is the reaction when they are told to flee instead of fighting with a knife, literally the next words out of their mouths will be "But what if I am cornered and can't run?" There are many such similar excuses that they can use and they all start with the word but: "but what if I am with old people or children and can't run?", "But what if I am out of shape (or infirm) and can't run?" In all cases, of the millions of possible options available they always seem to focus on the one that requires them to engage in a knife fight.
The truth is, it is incredibly difficult to "corner" someone who is determined to leave. Basically because he will use your face as traction or squirt through the smallest of holes. However, if the person's desire not to engage in physical violence is stronger than his desire to leave, it is very easy to corner someone. If you ask any experienced LEO, corrections officer or mental ward orderly which they would rather face, a person who wants to fight them, or someone who will climb over them to escape, to a man they will tell you the former. They know the latter will hurt them more and be harder to defeat. That's because that person is fully committed to a course of action. Whereas a person who has allowed themselves to be "cornered" will still be of a divided heart and therefore not able to fight at full capacity. And that is exactly what it will take in order to survive such a "no win" situation that they have put themselves into.
That is the true danger of this kind of thinking. Because part of you does want to know if you have what it takes and "can do it," you can unconsciously trick yourself into not taking appropriate precautions and ignoring danger signals. Your pride and ego will blind you about what you are doing until it is too late. Once there however, your life -- if it continues past that moment -- will be utterly destroyed.
Don't fantasize about being in a situation where you have to use your knife fighting skills, because you can end up tricking yourself into just such a situation by blinding yourself to possible escape routes.
I've bolded the parts that stood out most for me with the whole thing quoted to give context. According to this it says the people who 'fantasize' (I'm not sure if that's the word I'd choose) about situations with knife work are likely to seek out those situations or blind themselves to escape options.
Now I'm a day dreamer, it's one of my strengths especially when it comes to MA training. In class we are encouraged to visualize an opponent to try create an adrenaline surge and train our techs/responses based on those visualizations. How is that different to fantasizing? I know the words themselves have different connotations but in the context of MA, surely imagining an opponent and how they may attack is the same as fantasizing? I look at it as a way of exploring as many possible options as you can outside of the classroom environment. Not just visualisations either, when I get together with other students to train, we invariably do some free form drills to see if we could apply what we'd learnt and what works for us.
I for one can say for sure that I'm not interested in seeking out confrontations (armed or otherwise), I'm going to be relying primarily on my intuition, awareness, verbal deescalation skills or escape options unless there is an immediate threat to someone I care about. That being said, the whole point of training these skills is so that you CAN use them if you failed in all of the above mentioned aspects somehow right?
Little confused, some thoughts would be much appreciated! Thanks in advance