I was reading another thread, and this part of one post by shesulsa really caught my attention - largely because I completely agree with it:
What does "traditional" mean to you, in the context of the above statement? As far as I'm concerned, dues pay for the facility and the materials - like a Visa ad:
cost of training (dues - covers facility, insurance, etc.): $40/month
uniform: $50
sparring gear: $75
having a qualified instructor who trains for the love of the art: priceless
Are there people I won't teach? Yes - for a variety of reasons.
There are people who are physically unready - or unable - to learn certain techniques. I have a student with cerebral palsy and a developmental delay who has severe balance problems - he's never going to kick above a certain level, but he does the best he can with what he's got. He will never learn jump kicks - it's just not possible for him. I - and my students - spend a lot of time modifying things for him so he can continue to improve, but he cannot do jump kicks - so rather than teach him to jump, I concentrate on other things.
More problematic for many people are those who are unready - or unable - to be trusted with certain techniques. This discussion has come up before, but from other angles. There are people I will not teach - for example, I knew a man who wanted to date me, who I was not interested in - so in an effort to convince me otherwise, he joined me class. After a time, his behavior - finding me whenever possible and joining in whatever I was doing - turned into stalking; before it hit that point, however, I refused to let him remain in my class. He had anger management problems and was obsessive about things once he decided to do them - I did not trust him with techniques that could hurt people; sadly, he proved my distrust - his stalking reached a point where it fit the legal definition, and my association with him ended after the judge upheld the restraining order I filed.
Now, the above does not happen very often - in 15 years of instructing, he's the only person I have flat out refused to instruct - but there are those people who should not be taught certain things, no matter how much money they pay... and there are instructors who will teach them anyway, or even attract them as a preferred type of student, like the Kobra Kai in The Karate Kid. But martial arts are traditionally for defense, not offense, and I reserve the right to refuse instruction - or to withhold pieces of instruction - from people who I believe will not use what I teach them properly.
What I will say, without ego and with honesty, is that I see a lot of people these days who feel that their dollar entitles them to certain knowledge at a certain level when they want it, how they want it. And do you want to know what I think about that? It's bull ****. I'm not required to show ANYbody ANYthing just because they have the money. If I think they demonstrate to me good character, trustworthiness, many of the tenets that I think are important consistently over a fair amount of time such that they may learn deadly techniques, then I'll proceed as I think best. To show anyone with a buck and the willingness to learn how to fight, maim and kill is flat out irresponsible in my opinion. And to me, that's what traditional martial arts are all about.
What does "traditional" mean to you, in the context of the above statement? As far as I'm concerned, dues pay for the facility and the materials - like a Visa ad:
cost of training (dues - covers facility, insurance, etc.): $40/month
uniform: $50
sparring gear: $75
having a qualified instructor who trains for the love of the art: priceless
Are there people I won't teach? Yes - for a variety of reasons.
There are people who are physically unready - or unable - to learn certain techniques. I have a student with cerebral palsy and a developmental delay who has severe balance problems - he's never going to kick above a certain level, but he does the best he can with what he's got. He will never learn jump kicks - it's just not possible for him. I - and my students - spend a lot of time modifying things for him so he can continue to improve, but he cannot do jump kicks - so rather than teach him to jump, I concentrate on other things.
More problematic for many people are those who are unready - or unable - to be trusted with certain techniques. This discussion has come up before, but from other angles. There are people I will not teach - for example, I knew a man who wanted to date me, who I was not interested in - so in an effort to convince me otherwise, he joined me class. After a time, his behavior - finding me whenever possible and joining in whatever I was doing - turned into stalking; before it hit that point, however, I refused to let him remain in my class. He had anger management problems and was obsessive about things once he decided to do them - I did not trust him with techniques that could hurt people; sadly, he proved my distrust - his stalking reached a point where it fit the legal definition, and my association with him ended after the judge upheld the restraining order I filed.
Now, the above does not happen very often - in 15 years of instructing, he's the only person I have flat out refused to instruct - but there are those people who should not be taught certain things, no matter how much money they pay... and there are instructors who will teach them anyway, or even attract them as a preferred type of student, like the Kobra Kai in The Karate Kid. But martial arts are traditionally for defense, not offense, and I reserve the right to refuse instruction - or to withhold pieces of instruction - from people who I believe will not use what I teach them properly.