I agree with you about the happiness through habit thing. I hope I didn't come off saying that observation skills can be honed to a JEDI mind reading level of skill - No way. We seem to be on the same wave length that it is possible to reduce the opportunity for someone to see us as targets through good habits and observing situations. It is by no means a catch all.
I like the comment about happiness though. I use to tell students who talked about self defense classes stirring up their fear of getting attacked and I responded with something like your locking the door post. I do these tactical habits because they are good for me now, not because I am afraid.
It sounds like a contraction but I see it as freedom and joy through discipline and habit. You take charge of the things you can, evaluate the past to learn from it- not for criticism and self abuse, and do the best you can along the way.
Sorry this is off topic, but it is and interesting tangent! Next time it will be more on topic
Paul Martin
I like the comment about happiness though. I use to tell students who talked about self defense classes stirring up their fear of getting attacked and I responded with something like your locking the door post. I do these tactical habits because they are good for me now, not because I am afraid.
It sounds like a contraction but I see it as freedom and joy through discipline and habit. You take charge of the things you can, evaluate the past to learn from it- not for criticism and self abuse, and do the best you can along the way.
Sorry this is off topic, but it is and interesting tangent! Next time it will be more on topic

Paul Martin