HEY!!!! I was kinda sorta one of those parents.......
Back when my youngest was in TKD she had a promotional, did everything perfect and did not get the rank, when kids around her, who did considerably worse did get the rank. I was ex-TKD I know how it goes, I worked with her on what she needed and she did it as good as any small child at her age could have, but flunked the test. I was not a happy camper, I complained...a lot. Come to find out, her rank, at that school, had little to do with what was being done on the floor and more to do with something they called "Citizenship points". And how did they get those you ask, well I'll tell you. There was a sheet that the parents took home every month and put check marks on things they accomplished at home. Like make the bed, feed their pet, help out around the house, put their toys away..... I kid you not. No one told me about this, and I am absolutely convinced it was there for the parents who would threaten to pull their kids if they did not get a belt every single test.
I was different, I was a martial artist and I was in TKD a long time ago. I told them then that was ridiculous and that I would fill them out for the every test here on out. But as soon as the contract was up (The only MA school I ever dealt with a contract) we were gone,
She passed every test after that (had the required number if "Citizenship" points, and by the time the contract ended, even my youngest, who was still in single digit age, was very aware that the rest of the kids just didn't seem to get what it was about. She was happy to leave so we did. Found a GREAT Aikido school and the rest was history.
Her first MA school, the TKD school, was beyond any shadow of a doubt, a McDojos, Also early on in the "Contract" talking with the head of the school, I mentioned I did TKD before. He asked me who I trained with. I think he was expecting me to say one of his many schools in the area. I told him Jae Hun Kim in Boston......that appeared to make him rather uncomfortable
Jae Kims, Boston. That brought back some memories. He's been there a long time, over forty years anyway. Always loved that dojo, Old School TKD.
As for you, Xue, as a parent of a kid in my school, I think you would have loved it. Everybody knew when they joined that EVERYONE was going to flunk a test at one point or another - even if you deserved to pass. And when a test came everyone took the test, even if it was just for practice. It was always one of the hardest nights of the year, and by far the most fun.
And, man, did I used to mess with them. Sometimes, in mid test when everyone was drenched in sweat, I'd have them in a ready stance and say "If you honestly believe you deserve to be promoted, please take one step forward."
There was usually a seconds hesitation as I'm sure things were going through their mind. Then some would step forward and some would take the humble approach. And I'd say "Anyone who did not step forward please bow out and leave the dojo immediately, thanks for trying, see you tomorrow."
Usually, the ones that stepped forward were the very best students. And they flunked. But hey, we practiced what we preached, which was - if you are interested in belts this is NOT the dojo for you.
But perhaps my fondest memory of teaching was the first time I tested a group for Black Belt. This was unprecedented for me, I had never had more than one student ready for Shodan, suddenly I had six.
So, the test was to commence at 5 A.M just to bust their balls, be there at 4:30 to warm up. They warmed up on their own. I bowed them in and the first thing was they were to jump up and grab the overhead ladder we used for chin ups. I told them to stay there hanging for as long as they could. That the first one to let go flunked and was to change and leave.
I went over to the corner, sat down and read the newspaper. I figured they would be there for a while. And they were. But there were murmurs going on amongst them, which was allowed. I figured they were encouraging each other. They were not. They were plotting.
After whatever amount of time had passed, one of them signalled and they all let go together, bowed out respectfully and left as a group.
Man, that was awesome. They stuck together. Took my breadth away. I passed them all.