That's funny, our other cat Grendel is also female and also likes attention on her terms. Maybe that's a difference between males and females.
Grendel is also very talkative and very affectionate when she wants to be. Funny thing is, one of her regular attention times is when papa needs to spend some time in the bathroom. Then she INSISTS on coming in and talking to me, like I need some guidance or something.
We inherited a colony of feral cats when we bought our house a couple years ago. I've been working with the local SPCA chapter who runs a free feral spay/neuter clinic with basic shots and health assessment, and I've had 7 of the ferals taken care of so far (one had to be euthanized, he was advanced FIV and had serious health problems). I'm not the only one in the neighborhood doing it, some other cats have already been fixed, and I know of at least a half dozen more that I haven't caught yet. It's an ongoing project.
One of the ferals is actually friendly, the others are quite wild and will run and hide and are definitely not handleable.. He comes out when I feed them and chatters with me and lets me pet him. He had a serious case of earmites, it was so bad he was literally trying to dig a hole thru the back of his head scratching at them. He had a huge, bloody ripped gash on the back of his head, big enough that I could see it from across the yard, and he had it for several months. That is what actually inspired me to get active and start trapping these cats. I was so happy when I finally caught this one and had him taken care of, he just looked so miserable. He's doing much better now, the wound is healed and he's in good spirits.