I had a discussion with some friends the other day about fidelity. Some feel that divorce rates are at a dangerous level because people go into marriage with high expectations and not enough realization that marriage is not easy, it takes hard work, compromise, and mutual trust to succeed. I agree to a large degree with that assessment. With this kind of understanding, marriages (in theory) have a much better chance of lasting longer.
There are others who feel that it is important to "test" their marriage. While the premise of testing is understandable, I think this approach may encourage distrust. However, if a marriage has already come to a point when one or both spouses question the value of their fidelity, finding a way to work together to resolve their problems may be a better way than resorting to a test. Your thoughts?
I saw this article (from London) that discusses a test called "honey trapping". I am sure the United States has its own version.
Do you feel that expectations of marriages have changed with today's society? Would "honey trapping" be a valid way of finding out whether fidelity is continuing? What is your measure of fidelity, trust, and respect for each other? If a problem crops up that questions fidelity, what would probably be among the better solution(s) to approach the problem?
- Ceicei
There are others who feel that it is important to "test" their marriage. While the premise of testing is understandable, I think this approach may encourage distrust. However, if a marriage has already come to a point when one or both spouses question the value of their fidelity, finding a way to work together to resolve their problems may be a better way than resorting to a test. Your thoughts?
I saw this article (from London) that discusses a test called "honey trapping". I am sure the United States has its own version.
http://www.reuters.com/article/wtMostRead/idUSL132980220080213?sp=trueMartinez is a "honey trapper" -- or as he likes to call himself, an "integrity tester" -- one of a growing team of private detectives who are hired by wives, husbands or partners to test the loyalty of their loved ones.
Do you feel that expectations of marriages have changed with today's society? Would "honey trapping" be a valid way of finding out whether fidelity is continuing? What is your measure of fidelity, trust, and respect for each other? If a problem crops up that questions fidelity, what would probably be among the better solution(s) to approach the problem?
- Ceicei