This may sound foolish to some, but this is something that I have really been struggling with as a Christian. God is very present and very alive in most areas of my life...church, family, and work. However, I struggle to be able to have God a part of my martial arts training. Maybe this does not make sense to some, but it is as if God is at one end of the spectrum and karate is at the other...how do you bring them together? I just feel very off-balance, very off-center. I love God, I highly enjoy Kenpo, but I just can't quite figure out how to bring them together. I hope maybe someone out there understands my question, and any thoughts on the matter would be appreciated.
Thanks much
Caveats:
I think everyone should be able to believe what they choose to believe. I am not big for religions but support spirituality.
As to being opposites and off balance:
My assumptions from your comments:
God and Christianity is peaceful and non violent and one should do what they can to help others.
Martial Arts the learning of how to hurt others.
If I may, and I am not trying to be insulting, I think if my presumptions are close or correct you have over simplified life and the issue at hand.
Religion and faith is for people to give them guide lines and to help them in dealing with things that are tough to deal with and also to give them a built in support group. The old saying of it takes a village to raise a child come to hand. One needs to understand the context of the rules and why they were given or written down. As mentioned there are quotes from the Bible Old and New Testaments where violence was used, but may not have been the first choice.
Martial Arts can and should teach people how to impart pain. But it can also teach one discipline, and confidence and also helps one with their over all health. So, if one uses martial condition to train oneself to make them more confident in their life and also to make them healthier it gives them a better chance to live longer and at peace and also to do things they believe important.
Both are tools that can help a person in life. Both can be abused by individuals and one should be aware of this.
I could give examples of the more training people have to more likely they are to pay attention to their surroundings. In the end they do not travel the most dangerous roads if there are more safe paths. They might even live a more peaceful life with less violence or threat of violence. The confidence they gain could also let a person not run away from confrontation and be willing to stand in the heat and in the end there could be a peaceful result by your actions.
And then there are the conditions of violence in your life, and if you are attacked or forced to defend yourself you have a better probability of surviving, including knowing when you are out classed and seeing the option of running away. But, you may have to strike back to create that window.
So, I hope you can see that it can be resolved. But I would like to ask more about the balance. If the system you are training in is not what you are looking for but the idea is ok then look for a new system. If the issue is the instructor(s) and you not getting along or being able to learn, one can look for new instructors in the same art or another. As I said, individuals can make it tough. So, if your learning style is differnet from that presented by the school then you might have to find a different place to train.
There is also the reason why you joined in the first place. Do not answer, just think about the questions. Where you attacked? Were you scared? Was it a family matter of others joining? Was it a health issue?
(* These may not apply to you *)
Many join after being attacked or scared and then they find there is no magic technique that works 100% of the time on everyone and that there is no single answer. This is true there is no single answer. The Answer is time for the fear and also for learning enough to put you into the higher percentile of being trained to defend yourself. But, many realize that they do not want to put the time in. So, if the balance is a time factor you cannot resolve the amount of time and you are looking for a reason to leave, then talk to the instructor and explain why you are leaving and in the future the instructor will understand if you decide to come back.
If it was an issue of health, then one might have to decide a differnet path to accomplish your goals. Not everyone enjoys running marathons, but others might like riding a bike ro just walking. As individuals we are all different and differnet likes and dislikes.
As to the friends or family joining and you joined as well, and now it may seem rough to leave as it is just not for you. Sit down with them and talk to them about your concerns and issues.
As I enjoy teaching and training I hope others will as well, but when a student comes to me and says I prefer this instead, I wish them the best and have even helped them find what they are looking for with recommendations.
Good Luck and enjoy what ever you do decide to do.