We are only allowed (mostly) to go to closed tournies (our association only), which I think bites. My dojang does attend one open tourny in Conn once a year (not this year, though). But that's a long drive and a whole weekend of just burning money I don't have (food, hotel, gas, tourny fees, ect).
I've been to many association only tournies. Some were good experience, some lame. I liked the ones where they go by rank, not age. I'm 31, so when they go by age (specially for women's breaking), there's like two of us, and I win no matter what (that's lame).
BUT when they go by rank, it's awsome. My last tourny, I went up against 6 black belts and I was one of two red belts (2nd gups at the time), and both of us red belts beat the BB's. She got 1st, I got 2nd. The other 7 girls were half my age, but I beat them (except one). That was totally cool because I was the "old fart" with a bum leg, three weeks before my surgery (pain), and a week before my test for 1st gup (the one I passed).
So yea, even association tournies aren't all that bad. They can give people who are new to tournies some experience with tournies and be around/compete against people they know the first time out. But once you get the "itch," for the bigger ones, you're stuck (as in association only tournies).
But my first ever tourny was an open tourny. I got 3rd in forms, and I had the time of my life seeing all the action, seeing the different clubs/martial arts (I was new to MA at the time), and what they do .... It was awsome.