I'm interested in getting into self-defense and/or a martial art. Judo, wrestling, boxing, karate, systema, aikido, I don't really care what it is, so long as it is great for someone with my traits. They include:
1. Being on the short side in height (5'6")
2. Sort of thickly built...not fat, just dense (see #5).
3. Short, but strong legs and arms.
4. Not very flexible (though wanting to get better)
5. Very high bone density,
6. Unusually fast reflexes/reaction time. I'd say this is my greatest strength.
7. Not aggressive in nature.
8. Very decent stamina.
Any suggestions? Thanks for your input.
First, welcome to Martial Talk.
Second, you will probably get a lot of similar advice. Although you may think that you can provide a list of personal characteristics and turn the handle and the 'best' martial art for you will pop out the other side, it doesn't really work like that.
What you need to do first is to take an inventory of the martial arts training facilities near you. There's no point in looking for some perfect art for you that isn't taught near where you live.
Once you have that list, you need to consider things like the hours they are open, and how that fits into your schedule. You'll be looking at long-term commitment, so think about what that means. Will you be able to continue training for the next X number of years?
Look at the instructors and check their credentials - we can help you with this.
Don't worry too much about your personal abilities. These things are modifiable, that's what good martial arts training does. Think about what you feel you would prefer to do, not what you would be 'best at' right now. Do you think you would prefer stand up striking to grappling or vice-versa?
After all that, it's time to start going around and checking out the various places you've shortlisted. Introduce yourself and ask if you can watch a few classes to get a feel for what they do. If you can, talk to some students who are about your age, maybe a fairly newer student so that they can share their learning perspective with you.
Don't listen to any advice you get here or anywhere else that gives you a particular style you should pursue based on the list you provided. That's really a bad idea in general. You are aiming at the you of the future, not the you that exists today. Your abilities will change as you train.
Stick around MT, we're a fun group. Let us know how things go for you and feel free to ask more questions.