A Student of Martial Arts
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- Oct 13, 2001
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terryl965 said:Rich, remember you are a valuable assit to evryone involved in your life, those nieces and nephew along with your friends childern are lucky to have a man that will take the time to be with them. Not being Married all I can say you are still a lucky man, the devorce part I understand went through it once and that is all anybody should have to do is once.
terryl965 said:You are not damage goods because of a divorce, 1 out of three have a divorce on there record so you are in the right group as far as I'm concern.
terryl965 said:Just keep doing what your doing and one day everything will come together if you want it to be.
lady_kaur said:Must be that same disease that inflicts me as well.
I'm 37, single (divorced). I never had children. I have a good career. I'm not overweight, and am reasonably attractive and friendly.
I don't know what the heck it is. The idea of "damaged goods"...I don't really buy in to that. My divorce was as smooth and issueless as such a thing could be.
There is a lot going on in my life that is really good. I have a great job doing what I love. My training captivates me, even though I'm still in the "clumsy beginner" stage. I'm not happy that I am alone...but I don't thing this is enough to make me seem like Ms. Gloom-and-Doom when I meet someone new.
Technopunk said:I knew there was a reason I made this:
A friend of mine introduced me to this girl one night, and we talked a little and she excused herself and went about her buisness... Later she told my friend that I don't wear enough abercrombie for her to date me.
So IMO there is a great deal of truth in what you say, Tess.
still learning said:Hello, Life is what you want to make it? It is all about having positive mind and attitude.
still learning said:My Instructor told me when he was in College he went on a mission to a third world country. When you live among them...and come back to America, you see how wonderful our country is!
still learning said:Clean running water, places to get food,toilets and toilet paper. Police and fire departments,hospitals, good doctors and medical help. Laws that work. Jobs. and so on...life here is 1000 times better!
still learning said:Be glad of what you have, except the losses...move on and up in your life...thinking of the past...will bring sadness....look to the future and see yourself in a better life.
still learning said:Many people tell me they wish they married their second wife first! LIfe can be better than the old? .........take care and simile....think positive!!!!. ..............Aloha
Xue Sheng said:Was unhappily married, been divorced.
Was happily divorced, been remarried (these are years apart by the way >10)
Am happily married.
If your happy and you know it..........who cares what anyone else thinks.
Bob Hubbard said:Because if you don't have a wife, 2.3 childrens and 1.4 pets you are somehow weird and broken
Brother Rich, I haven't been around in a while but I want to respond to your post.So, I am 39, single (Divorced), no kids, over weight, and happy.
Brother, as soon as you figure women out let me know. Please share the secrets .What's wrong with the above
You know as well as I do that really isn't much. As I said be happy with who you are a woman will be along eventually. It probably seems like an eternity but I'm sure the right one will come.I am trying to loose more weight and maintain my percent body fat to below 23% and get it below 20%.
It was enjoyable for me to go to the studio over the years. It was a way for me to forget the outside world and focus on the students and myself. If only for a couple of hours. You are a successful man with a good job, just don't let the wrong one come in.I train in martial arts, and, work in a career.
Marriage is certainly not all it's cracked up to be. It's hard work and takes a lot of patience. Believe me I'm reminded everyday about this. Actually again before I got on MT. My advice to you is date around to find the woman you are looking for. If the one your with isn't the one, move on.Yes, I was married, it did not work, and yes there is baggage or scars, but I think I am over most of it. (* Twitch *)
Well, there may be a reason why it didn't work out that way yet. I'm a firm believer in everything happens for a reason. Maybe at this moment it was not meant to be but you never know what the future has in store. All 4 of mine are over here wrecking the place and causing havoc. Keep your chin up Bro.I do miss not having children, and spoil my nieces, and nephews, and my friends kids, that also call me Uncle.
I don't necessarily believe that. Re-read some of my previous paragraphs.Why must I have a wife and kids to have anything? Yes they would have been great. I had a misstep and took cautions to not repeat, and just not found the right one yet.
I don't believe there's anything wrong with you.Just curious as to why the Amercian Society in general (* others can chime in with their societies point of view, as I would like to hear it as well *), thinks that something is wrong, and poor me?
If there's a lesson to be had and you find it let me know. Usually I found in my life if there's a hard way; that's the path I take. You would think eventually one would learn a lesson but nooooooooo.Is there something our society, trains its members without thinking about it? Did I miss that lesson?
To be honest Rich, with all joking aside. If I didn't marry Heather I think I would have preferred to stay single. Although my situation was a little different with 2 kids already but for me juggling 2 kids, an ex-wife, current wife, work and training someone is usually getting the shaft. There isn't enough time in the day for everyone. Which is why I say stay happy with yourself, your training, your friends and family. If you ever want to talk give me a ring. If you don't still have my number I'll PM my home and/or work numbers.Thank you for your replies.
Flatlander said:I don't think Rich is concerned about his own circumstances in any way. I do, however, believe that he's curious as to why society perceives that he should be unhappy with his situation when in fact, he's perfectly content.
And Rich, maybe if you stop growling at women, they'll stop screaming. :ultracool