So, Photon, when you first joined the this forum nearly 9 years ago, I remember you had some real issues about the way people were invited to test for rank at the studio you attended.
You sure have quite a memory and in this other thread people talked about how they sometimes forget stuff I said from years back.
Anyway, at the dojo I was attending at the time they ran promotion tests about every four months and it was up to the student if they wanted to sign up and test for their next rank although that didn't mean they would pass, you obviously had to perform well enough on the test to be able to pass and promote to your next rank, students did sometimes fail.
However there was a common myth at the dojo that, unlike with any of the lower ranks, before you could test for the rank of first degree black belt the chief instructor had to tell you that you could test. So if a test was coming up and you were a 1st Kyu brown belt or a high brown belt, the rank right before first degree black belt, you could only sign up and test for the black belt if the chief instructor told you you could, or so it was thought. It was a myth although a very prevalent myth that even some of the instructors believed.
If I recall, you said that your instructor did not want students to ask him if they were ready to test.
My instructor did not have a problem with that although there are apparently people on this forum who have problems with that or that have instructors who have problems with that and Im trying to figure out why. Somebody on this forum once said that they would never ask their instructor when they were going to test for their next belt, especially the black belt, as that would be disrespectful. Im trying to figure out why, in the martial arts community, why that might sometimes be frowned upon.
The custom at your studio was for the instructor to ask the student ...and I believe you felt you had been overlooked?
I felt I had been overlooked in being told I could test for first degree black belt and I felt that way for years, until I found out the truth that you didn't need to be told that you could test for black belt before you could test, if a test was coming up you could sign up and test for first degree black belt at your own discretion (provided you were a 1st Kyu high brown belt) of course that didn't mean you would pass. So yes I felt I had been overlooked until I found out that it was a myth that you had to be told before you could test, as I described above.
After all, if Im not being told I can test for a black belt I would like to know why. While I certainly trust my sensei's judgement so that if he says Im not ready that means Im not ready but I would like to know why Im not ready, specifically what I need to work on, so I can work on it and hopefully be ready the next time around.
Anyway, back then you got a lot of advice from various different perspectives about how to politely approach you head instructor and discuss the matter. And if I remember rightly, the same topic popped back up repeatedly for quite a while without any apparent resolution.
I don't recall advice about approaching my head instructor and discussing the matter, I do recall people saying belts and rank are no big deal and that you shouldn't talk to your instructor about such stuff because its disrespectful.
Later (at least until now) I noticed that you hadn't mentioned the topic. So my question is, did you ever resolve your issues with testing and advancing through the ranks at your studio? Did you change schools or styles? Or are you still struggling with this after nearly 10 years???
As I explained in this post I have resolved the issue of testing and advancing to black belt in the dojo that I was going to back when I first joined this forum. I do not go to that dojo anymore as I have taken up different styles, I now train in Goju Ryu and Gracie Jiu Jitsu and I go to schools that teach those respective styles. What Im still struggling with is certain attitudes and positions in the martial arts community in general and with stuff about my past. Some people on this forum have said I should get professional help but the fact of the matter is Im getting my help here and this forum in fact has helped me out quite a bit.