I'm struggling mightily with a wonderful problem, and I'm hoping someone here can offer some thoughts ...
I'm moving out of my neighborhood in any case, and I have the option of moving out West, a place I've always dreamed of living. Most of my extended family on my mother's side has been gravitating to Oregon over the last several years. My family is very cool with virtually no drama (the only dramatic relative moved to Malawi last year, much to everyone's relief.)
A big factor holding me back is financial concerns. I have a low income and a limited working capacity. I'm in the Midwest right now and I can get by comfortably on about $1600 a month for everything. It's not glamorous by any means, but I've always been very frugal by nature. I know that the cost of living is higher out there and I'm worried about housing - if I have to live in a neighborhood as bad as my current situation, I'd rather stay put. With three pets I don't think I'd be able to stay with any of my relatives, and because of my personal ethics I refuse to ask them for money. Can one get by on $1600 a month out there? I'd love to hear from some locals on this.
As far as my current situation, I have a lot of things encouraging me to stay. I've been in this city almost ten years and I have deep roots. I've been working very hard as a mental health advocate and it's paying off in a big way - our support group has expanded its membership tenfold since 2000. When a huge new clinic opened this summer at the local university, the director went out of his way to collaborate with us on meeting community needs. Most recently I've been invited to sit on an advisory panel for state government policy on mental health care. That's a lot of wheel to reinvent. As far as my paying job, I telecommute for a company based out of state, and I hope to set up a freelance writing and editing business some day. So that's utterly portable.
Still, it's an intuitive thing; my gut is telling me that it's time to move on. There's nothing wrong (spiritually) with signing on for another term here symbolically by buying a house locally in a new neighborhood. But I'll grow as a person faster and more solidly somewhere else. This feeling is pretty compelling; every time I make a serious move toward buying here I feel all hinky inside.
It's tough because this indecision has me chasing my tail - I'm afraid to list my condo for sale until I make this decision. This fear has extended to making any renovations so I can list it - why buy a new carpet when I like the one I have, if it's just going to wind up smelling like dog by the time a buyer takes possession anyway? I'm becoming paralyzed. It's such a problem that I bought a bunch of new switchplates, and I can't even bring myself to put those up. It's embarrassing.
So please, I'm begging you. Tell me where to live! :uhyeah: :lol: Seriously; my main question for any locals who live in the Pacific NW would be financial - how much does housing run out there, and can one survive with some dignity on about $18K a year? I'd even be willing to consider a trailer park if it was safe. I'm no diva, I just want something a little better than where I'm living now.
Thank you.
I'm moving out of my neighborhood in any case, and I have the option of moving out West, a place I've always dreamed of living. Most of my extended family on my mother's side has been gravitating to Oregon over the last several years. My family is very cool with virtually no drama (the only dramatic relative moved to Malawi last year, much to everyone's relief.)
A big factor holding me back is financial concerns. I have a low income and a limited working capacity. I'm in the Midwest right now and I can get by comfortably on about $1600 a month for everything. It's not glamorous by any means, but I've always been very frugal by nature. I know that the cost of living is higher out there and I'm worried about housing - if I have to live in a neighborhood as bad as my current situation, I'd rather stay put. With three pets I don't think I'd be able to stay with any of my relatives, and because of my personal ethics I refuse to ask them for money. Can one get by on $1600 a month out there? I'd love to hear from some locals on this.
As far as my current situation, I have a lot of things encouraging me to stay. I've been in this city almost ten years and I have deep roots. I've been working very hard as a mental health advocate and it's paying off in a big way - our support group has expanded its membership tenfold since 2000. When a huge new clinic opened this summer at the local university, the director went out of his way to collaborate with us on meeting community needs. Most recently I've been invited to sit on an advisory panel for state government policy on mental health care. That's a lot of wheel to reinvent. As far as my paying job, I telecommute for a company based out of state, and I hope to set up a freelance writing and editing business some day. So that's utterly portable.
Still, it's an intuitive thing; my gut is telling me that it's time to move on. There's nothing wrong (spiritually) with signing on for another term here symbolically by buying a house locally in a new neighborhood. But I'll grow as a person faster and more solidly somewhere else. This feeling is pretty compelling; every time I make a serious move toward buying here I feel all hinky inside.
It's tough because this indecision has me chasing my tail - I'm afraid to list my condo for sale until I make this decision. This fear has extended to making any renovations so I can list it - why buy a new carpet when I like the one I have, if it's just going to wind up smelling like dog by the time a buyer takes possession anyway? I'm becoming paralyzed. It's such a problem that I bought a bunch of new switchplates, and I can't even bring myself to put those up. It's embarrassing.
So please, I'm begging you. Tell me where to live! :uhyeah: :lol: Seriously; my main question for any locals who live in the Pacific NW would be financial - how much does housing run out there, and can one survive with some dignity on about $18K a year? I'd even be willing to consider a trailer park if it was safe. I'm no diva, I just want something a little better than where I'm living now.
Thank you.