Once you start seeing warning signs, it might be a good time to watch your damn mouth. Too many people ostensibly beg to be beaten.
sean
+1.
I've been in a couple of situations like this when I was a small kid and sometimes got into a conflict. If the other party is only out to appear the top dog and not actually intent on being violent, it can help if you let him or her 'win' / get the upper hand in a controlled manner.
For example, As a young teen I have once been in a situation where my street smarts hadn't caught up with my big nerdy mouth, and I insulted the girlfriend of someone who was in a group of 'wrong people'. At one point they cornered me and the boyfriend came up to me.
Now, I noticed that he really didn't want to hurt me but he had to do something or lose face, since his girlfriend had complained and his mates were there looking at him. He gave me a punch that was really more pro-forma than meant to hurt. He could've easily done real damage but he didn't. At some level it was really funny, because he felt as bad having to do this (because I was really below him in strength and size) as I felt to be there.
So I made enough of a show pretending that it had hurt while looking into his eyes and we both knew what was going on. The external appearances satisfied, they left and I never saw them again.
Am I advocating that people should let themselves be pushed around? No. Definitely not. But even if you are in a conflict where you can't win on force or run away, there can be strategies that deescalate the situation or end it with a token loss. It all depends on how well you can read the context of the situation and if there is anything you can do with that. It's a gamble.
But in my case then, I could not run, and I definitely could not win against that guy (let alone his 4 friends) so I won by losing. Had I thrown some oil on the fire or refused to take this way out, I would have gotten a good beating that could have cost me my teeth or a broken nose because they were that kind of people.
Winning is not about beating the other guy. Winning is about getting home.