Inspired by Sukerkin's thread about the End of Page 3... and before I go any further, I want to make it absolutely clear that I am not defending or supporting any suggestion that a woman's style of dress, or anybody's legal actions amount to "asking" to be a victim, or giving someone permission to make them a victim. You should be able to wear what you want and you should be able to leave your stuff around, and have it left alone because it's YOURS, and not someone else's.
That said... sometimes, our choices may indeed have some level of consequences. Larry Niven's story Cloak of Anarchy kind of highlights what I'm trying to say. If I go to the wrong neighborhood, and try to stare folks down -- I better be ready to either deliver or receive a beatdown. A girl goes to a club, wears next to nothing, don't complain that she's noticed -- and be prepared to deal with the attention. If you walk around flaunting $1000 bills -- you'll probably be mugged. If you leave your stuff unlocked when you go inside for a cup of coffee -- it may well not be there when you come back to it.
I've never understood the reasoning behind the woman who goes to the gym, wearing a spandex leotard thing that fits tighter than white on rice -- but complains if a guy notices. Don't wanna be looked at? Wear baggy sweats and a t-shirt. Not a pair of shorts that barely drop below your butt and a sports bra. Hey -- if I show up in spandex and no shirt, people are gonna stare. Maybe vomit, too. And I'm NOT saying leering or harassing her is OK -- but she can't be unrealistic about it, either. Guys (and some gals) are gonna take notice. There's a chance one or two will need to be whacked by a clue-by-4, too. If you're going to lay it out -- be prepared for the consequences.
I've got my asbestos undies on... flame away.
That said... sometimes, our choices may indeed have some level of consequences. Larry Niven's story Cloak of Anarchy kind of highlights what I'm trying to say. If I go to the wrong neighborhood, and try to stare folks down -- I better be ready to either deliver or receive a beatdown. A girl goes to a club, wears next to nothing, don't complain that she's noticed -- and be prepared to deal with the attention. If you walk around flaunting $1000 bills -- you'll probably be mugged. If you leave your stuff unlocked when you go inside for a cup of coffee -- it may well not be there when you come back to it.
I've never understood the reasoning behind the woman who goes to the gym, wearing a spandex leotard thing that fits tighter than white on rice -- but complains if a guy notices. Don't wanna be looked at? Wear baggy sweats and a t-shirt. Not a pair of shorts that barely drop below your butt and a sports bra. Hey -- if I show up in spandex and no shirt, people are gonna stare. Maybe vomit, too. And I'm NOT saying leering or harassing her is OK -- but she can't be unrealistic about it, either. Guys (and some gals) are gonna take notice. There's a chance one or two will need to be whacked by a clue-by-4, too. If you're going to lay it out -- be prepared for the consequences.
I've got my asbestos undies on... flame away.