kenpo tiger said:
Caver, I usually agree whole-heartedly with you, but not this time.
The drawing was quite specific (if the description is accurate). Look to Columbine for an example of 'boys being boys' and their behavior ignored until...
As to bringing in the police -- if it was your child being threatened, how would you feel? I don't know that I'd go the route of arresting them since they're only 10, but I'd sure want to put the fear of whomever into them so that they don't decide to take the *game* a step further.
Yes right.. put the fear of God in to them... so who's gonna do it? When I was growing up I didn't have a fear of God. I
did have the fear of
DAD
who by his nature had the fear of God which prevented him from punishing me more severely had he not. But woe be my butt if I did something wrong that got on his bad side. Sooo, by and large I behaved.
Point is who is responsible? Who is
Ultimately responsible for the children as they grow up?
For you reading this that have "grown kids" (say between 17-21 + yrs old). They're pretty good folk? Haven't gotten in trouble with the law (yet and hopefully never)? Got jobs and etc. etc. Whose idea was it for the kid to be a good person, and who was responsible for the kid turning out that way? Yours right? The parent of that fine soon-to be- upcoming outstanding citizen.
(
NOT ANGRY TALK HERE!!

) You want to bring up the specteres of Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold, fine. Answer me this... who is (
ultimately) responsible for those two boys breaking down and murdering their fellow students? The other kids who teased them and harassed them? Who did the boys have to turn to besides each other for consoling and caring ear? Who was supposed to be there for them when there's trouble at school? When they come home and shut themselves up in their rooms and play violent video games and listen to depressing music who was supposed to check on them, making sure everything is okay and not allowing a simple "I'm fine, mom/dad, everything is cool" go by casually?
I've had my share of tormentors at school(s) but at least, and I'm guess I'm one of the lucky ones ... or
should I say my class-mates were the lucky ones??, because at least I had my parents, guidance counselor and teachers to talk to about it all.
It all starts in the home. It should ultimately finish at the home when the child is ready to "leave the nest" ready to face the world on it's own for the first time and be prepared enough to handle life on life's terms as well as it can. To leave with a (insert patriotic music here) sense of duty and responsibility to their fellow man that we're all here to help each other out and be good productive citizens.
It seems that the
majority (... of course not you who are reading this personally

) of the people are refusing to take direct responsibility for their children. Oh it was the other kids in school, it was the heavy metal music they listened to, it was the DOOM 3 type games and violence on television and movies... and on and on and on. Well, umm, geez you just basically bought them their clothes, put food on the table and woke them up every morning to go to school and called it good huh? I mean what are they? Your children or boarders? (

) Thankfully there are good parents out there. Sadly there aren't enough of you to go around. These two boys must be evidence of that huh?
Growing up
is hard. One of the hardest things we
all have to go through. Why is it hard? Probably to prepare us for when we're adults. To be capable of facing life's challenges; getting up to go to work everyday, paying the mortage, raising our family and so on. Who is supposed to be there to help us as we grow? I would hope it would be the parents and other adults who've been there. Yes, it's hard teaching our children to be good people. We're trying to make it through our own lives as it is. It's hard to find the time to make time for those kids when we gotta get up and go to work everyday and pay our mortage and feed our families and take care of our parents (who took care of us when we were little) and try to balance everything out. .... Making the time, re-arranging priorities so that our children, our future, the reasons that we're living will have the things they need to grow up happy and productive. One of the most important things is our love for them which means our time, energy and experience and wisdom.
IMO the parents of those two boys need to take the first steps in disciplining them and then the school and then watching them. If they continue then counseling (NOT DRUGS) to find the root of their problem. The drawings were not threats... they were cries for help! Didn't anyone consider that? There was so much anger and the kids were ignorant of the proper means of expressing that anger against their fellow student that drawing out their mad was the only way to express it. Or maybe they were just having a bit of malicous fun. We won't know and those kids sitting in juvie hall aren't going to get the help they need because they're sitting in jail.
Was there a history of these boys doing that kind of stuff? If so why didn't they get the help they needed? Why were Eric and Dylan denied the help that was there for them? Why didn't their parents listen for the clues?