Robert and Susan,
I will tell you that this is no day at the beach, no easy ride, no safety net. It's no magic solution, it's no absolution of wrong deeds or thoughts, no justification of dreams and wants.
You will find that marriage is just as challenging as any job you get tired of, any child you get tired of parenting, an old chair you can't stand anymore but can't bear to part with ... it's all about what you put into it.
Sometimes all you can put into it is patience and time. Sometimes if you don't do the things you don't want to do, you will both be miserable, just as if you don't do some of the things you DO want to do you will also be miserable. There's no magic solution to making it last, to making it easy, to making it great ... other than your willingness to commit to the institution that it is.
And what it is, years down the road after you each season yourselves to the partnership, is the incredible opportunity to be thankful for the other part of your life that has become exclusively yours, the chance to be nothing and all that you can be and still be the people of each other's dreams, the chance to find that frustration and resentment really can pass as you both really find each other and what you're really about.
I know Bob pretty well, not Susan as much ... but you two seem to be well-paired and as much as you have already been through together, I have little doubt the future holds anything less for you both.
All my best wishes, all my best hopes and my best spirit for both of you at your wedding and beyond.
All love and empowerment!!!
- Georgia
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artyon:
Oh well, sometimes you gotta take care of bid-ness.
, and all because of those two little words "Yes, dear"
