Thanks extended to Carol, Caver, Bruno. Many many thanks.
A brave, dignified and admirable woman from Africa (Somalia) - a graduate student in biology appeared at a presentation and slowly, patiently described FGM and rape as she and her sisters (literal and sisters of the heart) had experienced these horrors. She dealt with the clueless questions, insensitive comments and ridiculous suggestions (like the insertion devices) with unnerving self-control and clarity. She also had choice and sharp observations about rape and sexual assault in the US and our characterizations of survivors. She observed that western men were also frightened by the rapists from her region who claimed that western men also would rape with impunity, if they only had the chance.
She made herself available to our agency to help when we encountered any girls and women who had been assaulted and were connected to the African or Afro-Carribean communities. She was generous, patient and tenacious. I remember her with profound respect and affection. She had built a life for herself, not by herself alone, but through the love and support of other African and American women, overwhelmingly women.
we will not end this cruelty in her lifetime or mine, therefore we are obliged to do what we can do.
(full story
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/8107039.stm)
South African rape survey shock
South Africa's government has been urged to solve the rape epidemic
One in four South African men questioned in a survey said they had raped someone, and nearly half of them admitted more than one attack.
The study, by the country's Medical Research Council, also found three out of four who admitted rape had attacked for the first time during their teens.
It said practices such as gang rape were common because they were considered a form of male bonding.
The MRC spoke to 1,738 men in KwaZulu-Natal and Eastern Cape provinces.
The research was conducted in both rural and urban areas and included all racial groups.
Using an electronic device to keep the results anonymous, the study found that 73% of those who admitted rape said they had carried out their first assault before the age of 20.
Almost half who said they had carried out a rape admitted they had done so more than once.
One in 20 men surveyed said they had raped a woman or girl in the last year.