The best people at raising children are those who love them, have their best interests at heart, protect them and teach them to be well rounded, independent adults. That's it.
One thing that adults do is teach children that saying sorry means everything is fine and forgotten. Not so. Take a young child who in temper/pique/selfishness, whatever, hits another child who has a toy it wants. The hit child cries, the adult tells the child who hit it to say sorry, the child does so however unwillingly, the adult says there everything's fine now. The next time that child hits another child he looks, sees the adult and immediately says sorry, the adult tells the hit child look he didn't mean it he's sorry but the child isn't sorry, he's chuffed because he manipulated an adult and did what he wanted while getting away with it.
What we have is just that, someone constantly apologising but doesn't at all see where things went wrong because the sarcastic comments keep coming as well as a rather petulant post elsewhere. I don't take criticism well at all ( see, you never guessed that did you lol) but in life revenge is a dish best served cold, the best way to reply is to be politely sure of your facts, we all have subjects we know inside out but arguing about something you don't know with someone who does is not going to end well.
We all have opinions on things that matter to us, we can be positive our opinions are the correct ones but they aren't sacred cows, others can laugh, deride and just plain argue we are wrong. You can think about your opinions, you can change them or keep them but you can't complain when others don't share them, try to change their minds by all means but don't be surprised if they are as stubborn as you are.
An opinion isn't a fact.
Sarcasm....... and irony. Now it's often said in Europe and elsewhere ( yes the Antipodes) that Americans don't 'do' irony and don't often understand sarcasm, on the whole looking at the media output form the States this could well be true. This American writer has put it well.
Here's The Real Reason Americans Don't Get Irony this British writer puts the other side
Here's What Happens When You Say Something Ironic To An American it's about communicating style, seeing sarcasm where none is meant, not seeing it when it
is sarcasm.
Failing to understand a comment because it doesn't gel with what is going on in the reader's mind has a lot to do with why comments on the internet lead to arguments. A long while ago I wrote a post and said something along the lines of 'you wouldn't want your children doing this', I got an angry post back telling me not to dare mentioning his children in public, how dare I impugn things about the children and him' etc, it was a shock, I had meant it generally, didn't know the guy had kids, it wasn't a personal post from me but to this day the poster has been dogging me, reading into my posts stuff that really, really isn't there. It's so bad he is on ignore and I don't get tempted to find out what is being said, this guy hates me so
I really do ignore my 'ignored trio'. The ignore feature is there so you can forget about those you don't want to read, it's not a toy to 'threaten' people with because I'm sure those I ignore don't care whether I read them or not.
The stuff about irony/sarcasm
is a generalisation of course but it does show that different people communicate in different ways. The trick is to read and learn how people communicate where you are in this case it would be how they do it on MT.
To a large extent MT is a far more academic site than many other martial arts sites. People expect statements to be cited and checkable, if it's an opinion say 'I think' or 'in my opinion'. Saying 'Judo is about throwing people' for example isn't enough, it's a vague description, here, people want a precise description of Judo. They like precise descriptions of techniques too, (something I find hard to do, I can show people more easily than I can describe it). There are a huge amount of different styles on martial arts and I think we probably have a representative of most on here, so if I say 'throw a front kick' it's going to mean different things to different people which again
can lead to arguments. Even among karateka there is are many different ways of doing things so precision is everything. When I say use the word 'mawashigeri' it describes something karateka know and non karate people can look up, even though there are nuances in that kick ie what part of the foot you strike with. A video can be useful but again you have to get the precise style, a Shotokan front stance is done slightly differently from a Wado Ryu one ( it's longer), I've seen quite a few videos recently where people are using them to demonstrate something and others have come back saying well, 'yes but that's not my style so we don't do it that way' or as is common now showing a non expert doing a technique really badly but are being held up as representative of a style, everyone seems to make videos but they aren't very good proof of anything.
Still, that's my opinion, Usain Bolt is running in the 200m heats shortly so it's coffee and plonk myself in front of the telly. I hope he beats that cheat again, I hate cheats...............
