Gray Phoenix said:
You should see the look on their faces when I attack eyes, ears throat etc... My goal is to end the fight as quickly as possible. Damage to my oppenent, be it temporary pain, or immediate death, is secondary to my own well being.
As you say there are difference in situations, I think attacking eyes is a terribly dangerous idea when training. Training should be fun and safe, even if it is not "realistic", safety should be priority one. If you accidently blind someone during training, your training will be worth nothing in the real world for that person anyway. I see no real need to train things which put your health at risk every time you spar. But of course, every instructor has his own way.
To get back to the subject:
I think judo and muay thai people are good in their seperate ways. Thai people generally have halfbad defenses against takedowns in the form of throws and locks because they have no reason to practice it, and vice versa. Wrestling as well has rules which prevent a "realistic" situation. For street defence I actually think thai is a bit ahead since punches and kicks are the realistic attacks. I would be surprised if some guy on the street grabbed me and tried to OsotoGari me.
In my oppinion though I think judo people have an edge over wrestlers since their takedowns usually lead to a good setup for submission, and (at least to my knowledge) submission in wrestling is nonexcistant. Wrestling pins are good, but provide no real defense against taking damage, where submissions give pain and usually control damage from an arm or leg. Judo people also have the benefit of having trained strangulations which are very effective on people who are not used to them.
To give the art I train a little praise:
The style of Jiu Jitsu I train is not a sport, and therefore purely selfdefense with all the dirty little tricks that comes with it. In our clinch we train locks and and throws as well, but in clinch we are "allowed" to strike as well as use whatever nervepoints available, as well as on the ground. It is a bit more effective and provides more oppertuneties compared to sportgrappling such as judo and wrestling.
My main point is that jiu jitsu is more general and broad, because it is not a sport, where the other styles focus more on single aspects of clinchfighting.