Damian Mavis
Master Black Belt
So last week one of my black stripes approached me about going for her black belt this November. (we have a black belt test in Nov. and May every year) Now last year I mentioned she could go in May of last year but she barely went to class so when May got close I told her she would have to wait until November. So she takes June, July and August off of training and comes back last week and immediately asks when does the special BB training start so she can get ready for her BB. (the test is 5 weeks away....) I inform her that prospective BB have to train regularly and at least solidly train for 5 months before the test and that I think she should wait for May. She looks like she might start to cry (keep in mind she's 16 or 17) and turns away and leaves without saying a word....I figure she just quit TKD.
So I'm thinking, do people really just want you to sell them a black belt regardless of their effort or attendance? Earning a black belt is one of the most thrilling accomplishments due to the hard work and pain involved, without that you have a black piece of fabric around your waist that means absolutely nothing. I realise that I could probably keep her from quitting if I let her test in November (even though she didn't put in the required time and earn it) and get her to stick around for years paying tuition but to me sticking to my principles as a good instructor that isn't after peoples money is way more important regardless of the consequences.
Well.... the reason I decided to post this was because doing the right thing worked out in this particular instance. She came back to class tonight saying that she told her parents what I said and they fully agreed with me saying that they didn't think she was ready for the testing yet either. Somehow coming from them it made her happy (as she was smiling when she told me this) yet coming from me she was miserable.... And on top of that her parents must have been impressed with my attitude/strictness as they sent her little sister to join TKD that very night. Was nice to see that I did the right thing and it didn't cost me a student after all.
Damian Mavis
Honour TKD
So I'm thinking, do people really just want you to sell them a black belt regardless of their effort or attendance? Earning a black belt is one of the most thrilling accomplishments due to the hard work and pain involved, without that you have a black piece of fabric around your waist that means absolutely nothing. I realise that I could probably keep her from quitting if I let her test in November (even though she didn't put in the required time and earn it) and get her to stick around for years paying tuition but to me sticking to my principles as a good instructor that isn't after peoples money is way more important regardless of the consequences.
Well.... the reason I decided to post this was because doing the right thing worked out in this particular instance. She came back to class tonight saying that she told her parents what I said and they fully agreed with me saying that they didn't think she was ready for the testing yet either. Somehow coming from them it made her happy (as she was smiling when she told me this) yet coming from me she was miserable.... And on top of that her parents must have been impressed with my attitude/strictness as they sent her little sister to join TKD that very night. Was nice to see that I did the right thing and it didn't cost me a student after all.
Damian Mavis
Honour TKD