When dealing with someone in a confrontational capacity, be it verbal or physical, I know that it is extremely important to remain calm. I also need to be more calm when engaged in stressful activities, such as finishing before deadlines.
There are times when people act agressivly toward me, and I become agitated. I do not think as clearly or as strongly as I would if I were in a calm state. I have dealt with this in the past by repressing the agitation/anxiety/anger. This, obviously, is neither ideal nor healthy.
Currently, I try to be aware that I am upset, but try no ignore the negative effects of being upset. This seems sort of like repression, though.
For me, being aware of being upset causes me to become distracted and careless. I would like to reach a state where I actually don't become angry/anxious when someone tries to "push my buttons." Barring this, rapid dissipation of negative emotions would be the next best thing, I think.
Do I have the right attitude toward this problem? Do any of you have any insight regarding this? Is elimination of anger/anxiety (for the most part) even possible?
Thanks.
There are times when people act agressivly toward me, and I become agitated. I do not think as clearly or as strongly as I would if I were in a calm state. I have dealt with this in the past by repressing the agitation/anxiety/anger. This, obviously, is neither ideal nor healthy.
Currently, I try to be aware that I am upset, but try no ignore the negative effects of being upset. This seems sort of like repression, though.
For me, being aware of being upset causes me to become distracted and careless. I would like to reach a state where I actually don't become angry/anxious when someone tries to "push my buttons." Barring this, rapid dissipation of negative emotions would be the next best thing, I think.
Do I have the right attitude toward this problem? Do any of you have any insight regarding this? Is elimination of anger/anxiety (for the most part) even possible?
Thanks.