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Oversimplifying? Hardly. Yes it's a forum and we are all what?

From what the OP said it was very clear that it wasn't an accident not even the first time. He said he thought it was funny the first few times thereby setting the precedent she took to mean she could carry on doing it. he didn't say he thought it was an accident and that it took time to realise it wasn't. It took TEN times of it happening for him to ask her to stop, by that time she would have thought she was onto to a winner so to speak. I'm going on what the OP has posted.
I thought the same thing as well. Being that the behavior got a pass and he even thought it was funny, but if he didn't approve then it should have been stopped on day one with firm rejection. And he keeps saying that she's attractive so now I'm confused.
 

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So there is this woman at my friends kenpo dojo that I go to every few times a week.

when you say friend, do you mean that your friend owns the Dojo or just attends? maybe ask your friend to say some thing to her, having 2 people speak to her might get the message across. its always a good idea not to mix business with pleasure, my rule #1.
 
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I told her again and better explained myself. That it makes me uncomfortable and she said sorry, that its just how she jokes around and has a strange sense of humor. I said well I'm glad we got that handled. So far our friendship still has touching but it is more appropriate things such as her punching me on the shoulder and highfiving my hand instead of my ***.

It's only been one class so far but things look better so far. Thanks for the help everyone, in the end I just had to be very clear about it because I guess she took my commands to stop it as playful or something.
 
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when you say friend, do you mean that your friend owns the Dojo or just attends? maybe ask your friend to say some thing to her, having 2 people speak to her might get the message across. its always a good idea not to mix business with pleasure, my rule #1.

My friend attends the dojo is a brand new student to any form of martial arts. He referred me here because I have an already existing history with kenpo, this place is interesting because it also teaches escrima and knife fighting along with kenpo.
 

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I said well I'm glad we got that handled.

Was that the best turn of phrase you could have used? ROFLMAO. :D

Being clear is always best, sometimes people give out mixed messages but don't realise it.
 
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Was that the best turn of phrase you could have used? ROFLMAO. :D

Being clear is always best, sometimes people give out mixed messages but don't realise it.

Yeah I didn't realize the unintended pun at the time.
 

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Glad it worked out for you the way it did. At least she didn't respond by saying "you know you like it hot pants" lol seems like your rear is safe once again.
 

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this place is interesting because it also teaches escrima and knife fighting along with kenpo.

So where is this place? Does it have a website? Stick and knife fighting I think are good skills to learn along with the unarmed techniques, and I really like the Philippine styles.

Anyway, concerning your situation I would advise you to talk to a lawyer if things got too out of hand but you said you've got it resolved so that's good.
 

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I told her again and better explained myself. That it makes me uncomfortable and she said sorry, that its just how she jokes around and has a strange sense of humor. I said well I'm glad we got that handled. So far our friendship still has touching but it is more appropriate things such as her punching me on the shoulder and highfiving my hand instead of my ***.

It's only been one class so far but things look better so far. Thanks for the help everyone, in the end I just had to be very clear about it because I guess she took my commands to stop it as playful or something.

I am glad to hear it was resolved maturely. Many people do not realize how their actions are perceived and it is a good sign that this lady is now respecting your boundaries.
 

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So where is this place? Does it have a website? Stick and knife fighting I think are good skills to learn along with the unarmed techniques, and I really like the Philippine styles.

Anyway, concerning your situation I would advise you to talk to a lawyer if things got too out of hand but you said you've got it resolved so that's good.
Since Kenpo focuses a lot on self defense, and there is a mindset shared with stick/knife fighters, plenty of kenpo places teach stick/knife fighting as well :)
 

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A woman had me in a lock and put my fingers in her mouth once. Nautrally I told her to cut it out(!!!) since it is both unhygenic and unacceptable behavior in the dojo.
After class she and her friend hit on me for a threesome or something. No problem with that, unfortunately they were not my type at all :D
 
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A woman had me in a lock and put my fingers in her mouth once. Nautrally I told her to cut it out(!!!) since it is both unhygenic and unacceptable behavior in the dojo.
After class she and her friend hit on me for a threesome or something. No problem with that, unfortunately they were not my type at all :D

What kind of dojo was this? That sounds like the plot of a generic porno.
 

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What kind of dojo was this? That sounds like the plot of a generic porno.

A really short porno since nothing happened lol.
My regular dojo, but the woman was from out of town and visiting for a camp. Have not seen her at any of the gatherings since so I figure she may have quit JJ.
 

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It's very cold and dark there in the winter, they are old fashioned so make their own amusements.
Says the lady who spends most of her free time surfin` the net for pics of fit young men in various stages of undress :cool:

Like this. Milk yum yum.
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I cannot deny it :D
this is one of my favourites Emil Weber Meek from MMA Trondheim, he fought on a couple of shows where we've had fighters on so got to be in the warm up areas with him lol, talk about inappropriate touching though, he had girls fondling his bum as he left the cage at one show, Scottish girls can be very forward. I don't think he minded after he got over the surprise.
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One day I`ll send Tez a nude selfie and she will have an heart attack heehee ;)
 

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I wonder as a co - instructor - and your a trial student? If she is working to make you stay. But in any case its inappropriate. I would tell the owner or head instructor and leave. I doubt they will let her go or discipline her.

Get a cup - you don't want a knee or foot jammed in there.I have done some grappling with both men and women - and for various reasons I like having mine on.
 
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