I cried

DeLamar.J

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When U were 15, she came home late from

work, looking for a hug. U thanked her by

having Ur bedroom door locked.



When U were 16, she taught U how to

drive her car. U thanked her by taking it every

chance U could.




When U were 17, she was expecting an

important call. U thanked her by being

on the phone all nite.



When U were 18, she cried at Ur high

school graduation. U thanked her by staying

out partying until dawn.



When U were 19, she paid for Ur

college tuition, drove U to campus carried Ur

bags. U thanked her by saying good-bye

outside the dorm so U wouldn't be embarrassed in

front of Ur friends.




When U were 25, she helped to pay for

your wedding, & she cried & told U how

deeply she loved U. U thanked her by

moving halfway across the country.



When you were 50, she fell ill &

needed U to take care of her. U thanked her by

PUTTING HER INTO AN OLD FOLKS HOME



And then, 1 day, she quietly died. And

everything U never did came crashing

down like thunder on UR HEART.

I cried
 

Kacey

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Touching. :) That is very good. One thing though, the Ur and U needs a spell check.
I agree; the U and Ur made it very hard to read, and detracted from the meaning.

While I agree that children should take care of their parents, and pay attention to their feelings, I don't think that their lives should revolve around them. I moved 1300 miles away from my parents for college - and started getting along with my mother much better. If I had stayed in the same city, we'd have driven each other nuts and wouldn't talk to each other now - it had nearly reached that point when I left for college.

After my uncle finished college, he was offered a job in Detroit - and his parents lived in Nashville. He has lived in Detroit for over 30 years, while his parent (my materal grandparents) lived in Nashville. When my grandfather needed to be moved out of his house because he could no longer live alone (my grandmother had been dead for nearly 10 years at that point) my uncle moved Grampa into a retirement community near my uncle's house; he is now in a nursing home 3 miles from my uncle. I see nothing wrong with this. It is not abandonment and lack of caring to grow up and away from your parents - on the contrary, it is their responsibility to give you the skills to live apart, and it is your responsibility as an adult to be able to live apart from them.

Extended family in the area is great - but that is no longer the way many people live; nor, do I think, should children lead their lives for the convenience of their parents. They should care for their parents in their old age, as their parents cared for them in their youth - but that doesn't mean bypassing their life goals because they'd have to move away. There are too many factors that may make moving an economic, emotional, or other necessity.
 

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