Okay...
In a simple, one word response to the thread title... yes. Dammit, yes. There's no such thing as being, or not being, "man" enough.
As to the rest of your post, that I'm going to take apart a bit. It's not easy to make an assessment with a one-sided viewpoint being presented here, and without being in the class, but hopefully my last 25 years in the art can help give an idea of what is "normal" (common) or not...
Ok, Wanted to get more advice. After posting for some reading on Ninjutsu, I decided it wasn't enough and went to two classes about an hour from me, on Thursday evening and Saturday morning. The results were not spectacular. According to my doctor this afternoon I had a dislocated left shoulder, broken metacarpals on my right hand, strained right groin, strain lower right back, and an over sense of brokenness and humility. Thursday i felt my shoulder pop as I was "placed" on the ground after a joint lock (by a 110 lb female). Saturday two mins into practice I pulled my groin doing some sort of side roll. 10 mins after that when practicing knife attack defense, my training partner stuck my otter right hand with a knuckle attack about 50+ time, and "gently" guided my fat a$$ to the ground all the while testing the pain threshold in my wrist, elbow and shoulder areas.
Yeah... that list of injuries is highly unusual, particularly in such a short time, and on a brand new student for that matter...
I need to add that I'm a 37 year old man that is 6'3" and 300lbs. Im severely overweight and I haven't exercised in the last decade unless you consider pumping gas, squats off the toilet after taking a dump, taking out the kitchen trash, or brushing my teeth as exercise? Ive been more sedentary than a grazing pregnant cow over the last decade. SO with all that, you know the condition I entered these two sessions in.
Yeah, that won't have helped... it can explain a number of the injuries (weakening/softening of the joints in the shoulder, lack of flexibility in your inner thigh/groin etc), but not all of them... the broken metacarpals, for example, could have been influenced by a lack of calcium and strength to your bones (you haven't mentioned diet yet), but still, unless they were unusually brittle, you shouldn't have left with them actually broken...
Ideally, your (new) instructor should have seen the condition you are in, and worked towards finding out what you can do, and building from there... if getting low for a roll is too much, they should (ideally) have given a variation to allow you to work up to that...
My real question here is, am I just too weak or is the training too intense? Is this the normal for dojo's and practice partners? Im no martial artist but I would think that you would dial back the insensitive in which you perform the joint locks and attacks not just the speed at which you are preforming them. What is the standard % speed/pressure you normally use in practice. The movement speeds were slowed to 10-20% I would guess but the locks and the tension was seemingly allowed up to 70-90%. I was in heavy pain with each demonstration performed on me. The other issue is the 2nd part of these movements. So the lock and tension come first then its to the ground. Well a 300 lb man can't go to the ground well on his own much less with his arm locked up and someone throwing him down. It was a recipe for disaster.
Anyway is this just normal or am I in a bad dojo, or do I just need to give up martial arts until a grow a larger set of kahonas?
It's really not easy to say... you mention being "placed" on the ground... but I'm not sure what you intend the quotation marks to imply. Are you saying that you were put down harder than you would have thought appropriate? Or that it was gentle, but you had a bad landing yourself?
As for the rest, there is no "standard", particularly in the Bujinkan... each dojo will be individual... but one would hope that the pressure/speed/power is scaled to the student(s) performing and receiving the techniques. Many schools will have you working on only being the defending (winning) partner, until they know you can take ukemi safely enough to have techniques applied on you... or just work ukemi in the first place...
That said, with the lack of fitness and lack of exercise in your past, it is likely that you are overly sensitive to the stress being put on your body when techniques are applied... much of the ability to receive particularly the nastier joint locks rely on becoming accustomed to it over time and experience. For example, a lock that I apply fairly strongly on my black and brown belts without them having too much of a negative response, I can only put on at about a quarter of the intensity to some of my white belts... they're simply not used to it yet. I will say, though, that that has nothing to do with any relative size of your (or anyone's) kajones... that's really not the best way to think of things.
Really, you have a couple of options... you can talk to your instructor, and say "hey, this is what's happening...", and see their reaction (here's a hint... if he says you just need to tough it out, leave). You can look for other schools, bearing in mind that much of the problems may stem from your lack of fitness at this stage... or you can not train, and continue to slip further and further from fitness and physical confidence....
Lastly I'm looking for any style of ninjutsu closer to me. Ive loaded this map of North Carolina to see if any of you know of anywhere within my willing driving distance to train. Thank you all!
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There aren't so much different "styles" of ninjutsu.... realistically, there's authentic ninjutsu, found in a number of organisations, but always stemming from the teachings of Takamatsu Toshitsugu (known, appropriately, as the Takamatsu-den, or Takamatsu traditions), most notably the Bujinkan, the Genbukan, and the Jinenkan, as well as groups such as Toshindo. All of them teach the same arts, and the same technical material, for the greater part...
As for the drilling, yes, that is as normal as it gets. If you don't get at least a little roughed up from any grappling, you're training too softly, and whatever you're doing won't work in real life for you. Decent fitness makes this a breeze.
I'm going to caution against making such statements... you not only don't know anything about the dojo that Aaron trained at, you don't actually know anything about the art he's talking about, nor the organisation itself... so no, it's potentially not as "normal as it gets"...
I really, really doubt that you are learning authentic ninjutsu at all by the way. That just sounds like some aikido/jujutsu class in ninja clothing to me. Check out the now inactive "Chosunninja" channel. Pretty mind-blowing stuff.
Oh, gods, no!!!! Greg Park ("Chosunninja") is no authority whatsoever... there's no basis to anything he put up, and watching his channel thinking you're getting anything close to actual, legitimate information is simply folly. Again, you have no clue about these arts, so I'd recommend refraining from making such comments about what you think it authentic or not. Park is as far from it as you can get.
This is Bujinkan Ninjutsu in Charlotte NC. Yes this is drills only and no sparing, just instructional. I know my fitness level caused most of my discomfort but are overweight individuals frowned upon in MA because they lack the ability to be a good uke?
Absolutely not. Bad uke are frowned upon because they're bad uke. You're a brand new student. The two are incredibly removed from each other.
But if overweight people were frowned upon in the Bujinkan, there goes many of the students and teachers... even some of the highest ranking ones... ha! So, no. What is frowned upon, though, is not putting in the work to improve... allowing your personal body image to stop you from thinking you can grow and succeed. I have a student who also has a lot of trouble going to ground due to his physical state... but he keeps coming back, and is making constant improvements. And that's the only way to do it... you keep turning up!
Im not sure if I should just get some DVD's to watch and practice at home until I can lose some weight. I like the part of having people to go work with and feel a part of something. Being at home by myself will be much harder to stick with and be successful.
DVD's are supplemental, and frankly, that would be the weak way out. So no.
There's an old saying that the only way to gain the proper fitness for the activity is to do the activity... you can wait until you are "fit enough", or you can go to the classes, and work, allowing the art and classes to give you the appropriate fitness the art requires. Of course, this is dependant on the idea that the injuries are more to do with your physical state than poor training partners... if the latter, I still say you will get there by attending class, but might suggest a better one...
Are you guys aware of any instructional videos that would help practice technique as well as condition me? Thanks.
There are videos, but no, you're nowhere near at the point where they'll be of any assistance yet. Hitting the gym, on the other hand, taking up yoga, these can all help... personally, there's a DVD workout program I use, but it's on the higher end of the scale, so might not suggest it for you at this point. First and foremost, though, as with anything, before starting any exercise program (including engaging in the class), talk with your doctor, and see if there's any recommendation they make, or considerations they suggest to keep in mind.
xo Plus ANY experienced sensei will be aware of your status as beginner and your level of fitness and work with you so you can improve, if not, I should question whether I would wish to train under someone who do not have my safety and wellbeing as a concern.. Up to them to adjust, not you! 
