Yep, that's pretty much the point some of us are getting at. You have to be willing to fail - put yourself out there for failure - to get to some things. Whether we call that loss a failure or not is mostly semantics. I think most folks are using the term "failure" to refer to any time you try to do something and it doesn't work. The only difference in what you're saying and what others are saying is the definition of failure being used.