I'm with you on this one. If he's a serious person by nature then he probably just wants serious training. I train with my wife sometimes and I do the same thing when she goes from "training partner" to "wife"Reading through it, my initial thoughts was that he was going to be overreacting. But I'm not so sure after the end. It reads like he was trying to actually practice and learn, and felt like you weren't taking it seriously, messing with him, and beating him while messing with him. I can see how that would both hurt the ego, and not want to practice with you anymore (personally, nothings worse than when I'm trying something seriously, and the person I'm working with is messing around). He was teasing beforehand, but not sure about afterwards.
On top of that, but having already seen he's taking it seriously, and obviously this depends on your relationship, but the spanking seems too far. You already knew he was taking it seriously and/or upset, and your response was to take off his pants and spank him, which honestly is as humiliating/ego-bruising as it can get.
This is difficult for most people who see things as win or lose or "I got the best of.." I don't worry about winning or losing unless I'm in fight. Everything else success or fail is just part of training with no real down side.For me, I don't know what to say since I've never taken winning seriously.
ha ha ha..It wasn't just the names .So, he can make fun of you (call you fatty, etc.), but you can't make fun of him?
That doesn't sound like a healthy relationship.
I don't think that there's enough information here for us to say if it is or isn't a healthy relationship. Or to say which of the two is toxic if it's not (I could see either one being toxic if the situation were a bit more fleshed out). That's for them, or people who actually know them in-person, can say.So, he can make fun of you (call you fatty, etc.), but you can't make fun of him?
That doesn't sound like a healthy relationship.
Yep, It could be just normal relationship maturity kicking in. To me the entire situation is funny to me. A guy gets bet in Judo to the point he doesn't thing Judo works. Probably has less than a year of Judo experience but has already determined it's effectiveness.I don't think that there's enough information here for us to say if it is or isn't a healthy relationship. Or to say which of the two is toxic if it's not (I could see either one being toxic if the situation were a bit more fleshed out). That's for them, or people who actually know them in-person, can say.
If that's the case then he should refrain from calling names as well. Some people get hurt when they are called names, but other people like me will make you eat those words. It's not done out of anger, it's more of a. "oh I'll show you".That aside, maybe you dominating him and laughing brought up some past experience he still struggles with or feelings of inadequacy/weakness he still struggles with. And those feelings make him want to reject the activity outright if it's just going to be something else to bring those emotions up.
One of the coolest things I've heard a guy say about his wife was.
"if you think my wife is going to let me fight alone, then you need to think again." in other words, if he got into a fight his wife would have his back and has the skills to actually have is back without him worrying about her getting a beat down.
What guy wouldn't like to be in that position.
i wouldnt have though getting a shoot em up girl was that difficult in america,Dude, do you have *any* idea how difficult it is to find a girl with that mindset though? One of the reasons I've been single for so long is precisely that difficulty in finding a girl who would be a true partner, and not just a liability, if **** were ever to get real. The proof of concept of this, to me, was when the city I live in was basically in a state of anarchy for several weeks earlier this year.
One of the best relationships I've ever seen is that of a guy in my unit. Not only are he and his wife great people, but they both train with firearms, and each has a designated plate carrier and rifle for a bad day... Relationship goals.
i wouldnt have though getting a shoot em up girl was that difficult in america,
but still a lack of fibding someone who can assemble an m16 blindfold, seem an odd reason to be single, to be honest, and you need to be careful.
i thought id found me dream girl, who was strong both mentaly and physicaly, extremly fit and did ma, it all went badly wrong when she decided to attack me
well to be clear, she decided to smash the house up after something had upset her that had nothing to do with me or the house and attacked me when i tried to stop her, turning my exspensive amp in to a leggo set,
she wasnt actualy strong enough to hurt me, so i let her punch me a few times in the face to see if it calmed her down, it didnt and she hit me so hard i banged my head on the wall, so i folded her up and sat on her, which also didnt help so i let her go again and she left
im eternally greatful she didnt have access to a fire arm or a big knife as id have holes in me now