- Feb 8, 2009
- Reaction score
Agreed. I would be a toxic male if I encouraged the OP to put up with abusive behavior in order to be more manly. I said nothing of the sort. What I said was that he should either speak with his instructor about the behavior or leave if the behavior doesn't change and he doesn't want to put up with it."Toxic masculinity" refers to when someone tells others what is/isn't masculine, pushing bad behavior (intolerance, selfishness, lack of respect for others, etc.) as the "masculinity" men should aspire to, or they aren't "real men".
What I *did* say is that he's acting like a whiny little brat and he should grow a set, by which I mean he seems to have a mealy-mouth whiny explanation why this is bad and that is bad, and all proposed solutions are bad, and oh woe is him. I'm tried to help him immediately when he first posted, but then I saw what kind of person he seems to be, and when he said he was 40 years old, I was disgusted. He should grow up, for God's sake. If the abuse is intolerable, leave. If it's not, suck it up and get on with the training. That's not toxic masculinity; that's being an adult.
But I'm probably not saying it correctly in this day and age.