Freeze, flight or FIGHT!

Being a sociopath takes quite a bit of work. So I am not sure if the juice is worth the squeeze.
Well people don’t generally choose to be sociopathic. My father, several uncles, and my great uncle all qualify as sociopathic. I know exactly how they function. It’s like there is a pie but two slices are missing. They were capable of heinous acts with no hesitation or concern for any consequences whatsoever.
 
Even with training people freeze and shut down because they think they will be in a good mental state.

And if they are not they are in trouble .

So don't worry about your mental state.

And just fight.
Oh I think I get it now, you are saying it matters but just push that down and ignore it? That’s a skill if you can do that.
 
And all of it doesn't matter.

The idea that you will be mentally ready to fight someone is a bit of a misconception. And instead you kind of just have to fight them.
Again, I disagree, because if I want to get in your head I just keep causing you and yours real life problems until you show cracks. This is also a skill. Like if you have a restaurant and you don’t want to pay me each week, I don’t send guys to beat you up, I send 10 guys to sit in your restaurant, drink tea all day, and stare down your customers. Yeah you can call cops but you are going to have to deal with that, and other things every day until you pay or you crack and want to fight. This is about commitment as much as anything. I think it’s funny when people think no one can get to them. There are lots of ways to fight.
 
There’s a Samurai maxim about three inadequacies that may lead to you losing in mortal combat and they had a lot of experience of mortal combat, at least before 1603:

1) Kikioji- Being afraid on hearing your enemy's fearsome reputation.

2) Mikuzure - Being afraid on seeing that your enemy looks very fierce and strong.

3) Futanren- Inadequate training.


3 is mitigated by effective, practical training strategies, but 1 and 2 required some sort of mental preparation because it is one’s mind that is making you stumble.
Prepare for death each day?
 
We had a kid in my BJJ gym go to a tournament. Gray-and-white belt. He gets to the tournament, sees that his opponent is a gray-and-black belt. Starts crying before the match even started. He lost. Our Professor told him that he didn't lose in the match. He lost 30 seconds before.

I saw the same thing a while later. A 3-round bracket. Me and one opponent had 4 stripes, the other guy was a fresh blue belt. He told us after the fight that he looked at our stripes and knew he wasn't going to win. I know I made him miserable during our round.

I've seen it in one of our adults. He showed up the fight and reminded me of the opening scene from Saving Private Ryan when they're in the boats about to invade Normandy. That level of stress. He barely even remembered the fight. Didn't listen. Didn't follow his gameplan. Felt horrible afterwards.

Mentality is absolutely a thing in fighting. If you go in with the wrong mentality, you're already beaten. If you go in without confidence, you're toast.
Too much of anything is not useful, including confidence.
 
And all of it doesn't matter.

The idea that you will be mentally ready to fight someone is a bit of a misconception. And instead you kind of just have to fight them.
The 6 p postulate applies, Proper Planning Prevents Piss Poor Performance.
 
Prepare for death each day?
You just never know when and from where death will come, so it’s not a bad idea. Make a will and get your finances in order, tell the people you love that you do and the others that they have been important to you…and buy expensive things like swords! šŸ˜‰
 
I’m not sure I’ve ever heard a more incorrect statement about the combat arts. Have you ever had a fight…and won? I think you’re just messing with us! šŸ˜…

ā€˜A fighter should some feel fear - if not, they’re a psychopath’ -Greg Meehan boxing mindset coach.

I could stop there, but…



In the classical Japanese martial arts there are so many tomes about the optimal mindset in combat. professional boxers spend as much time on their mindsets as they do their fighting and fitness.

Placebo can cause tangible biological responses even in open placebo studies. The fact is that mental state does affect physical performance. Something as simple as a prayer to Mickey Mouse could work.
 
You just never know when and from where death will come, so it’s not a bad idea. Make a will and get your finances in order, tell the people you love that you do and the others that they have been important to you…and buy expensive things like swords! šŸ˜‰
I’m here for a good time but not for a long time…
 
Oh I think I get it now, you are saying it matters but just push that down and ignore it? That’s a skill if you can do that.
Its a choice.

I don't think people realise how fast things turn bad in fights. And therefore how quickly you have to deal with that.

Imagine you have a panic attack and how overwhelming it is. How quickly it comes on And how long it takes to recover.

And then add someone punching you in the head while that's is happening.

It is kind of an unreasonable expectation that somehow you will resolve both at once. With some meditation or yelling or whatever.
 
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Oh I think I get it now, you are saying it matters but just push that down and ignore it? That’s a skill if you can do that.

To push "it" down requires a specific state of mind(s).

It sounds like @drop bear is advocating for a constant state of pathological hyperarousal?
 
Its a choice.

I don't think people realise how fast things turn bad in fights. And therefore how quickly you have to deal with that.

Imagine you have a panic attack and how overwhelming it is. How quickly it comes on And how long it takes to recover.

And then add someone punching you in the head while that's is happening.

It is kind of an unreasonable expectation that somehow you will resolve both at once. With some meditation or yelling or whatever.
All true. I don’t need to imagine I remember being 17, meeting some guys that got me into a bar in Hollywood. Later, I’m drunk and walking with them when they start talking slick to some other guys. Next thing, they are running and I am getting the **** kicked out of me. I had some realizations. When I woke up my face was stuck to the pavement behind a car tire. I tried to catch the RTA bus back to Long a beach but the bus driver took a look at me and just drove past. At several points in my young childhood I understood how fast I could get dead by just hanging out. My buddy and I got stomped and robbed for our bikes on a busy street in broad daylight when we were 12 years old. Believe me when I say I understand that feeling of utter and imminent defeat.
 
To push "it" down requires a specific state of mind(s).

It sounds like @drop bear is advocating for a constant state of pathological hyperarousal?
I’m not sure how to categorize it but that might be one path. That’s how we as humans find ways to do things we wouldn’t normally do…
 
Its a choice.

I don't think people realise how fast things turn bad in fights. And therefore how quickly you have to deal with that.

Imagine you have a panic attack and how overwhelming it is. How quickly it comes on And how long it takes to recover.

And then add someone punching you in the head while that's is happening.

It is kind of an unreasonable expectation that somehow you will resolve both at once. With some meditation or yelling or whatever.
Well being stabbed or shot at will clear up those misconceptions rather quickly.
 

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