Corporal Hicks
Black Belt
There are many phsychological aspects involved with a confrontation but I was thinking about something that has been bothered me even before a confrontation starts and this is intimidation and lack of self esteem and confidence.
In the town I live in, there are quite a few yobs and those who seem to like to pick fights at every avaiable oppotunity, granted that it is quite quiet compared to some towns but still you have to weary (as with anywhere I guess).
The thing that gets to be, is that I feel intimidated by these yobs, that I feel inside I seem to sterotype certain people into automatically being 'these types' of people.
It takes alot to say and I guess I'm actually scared of these people even though somewhere inside I knew that if it came to it I could defend myself. I feel intimidated by them and I think this generally comes from a lack of self esteem and self confidence that I have been plagued with for a long time.
What bothers me is that soon I will be training to be a police officer, first a university and then actually on the beat and yet I still feel intimidated by these people, I have had no first hand experience but I seriously want to learn this, how to handle situations, be confident and be able to walk out my local supermarket and not feel threatened by some punk from my year who I know given that I look at him he is likely to start a fight?!
I know this is purely a pyschological aspect but how do you guys control the situation. I know that it should be you who controlls the situation both situationally and mentally but how do you do this, I appreciate any replies but especially from Police and other security officers, bouncers etc. Do you not feel intimidated by others, especially criminals or guys causing trouble? How do you deal with it?
I'm not generally somebody, as others have told me also, who comes across as the victim type, but I've been bordering on adopting a 'hard' type attitude however I feel this conflicts with my buddhism on not feeding my ego, is this possible, to give this correct outlook?
Replies really appreciated!
Regards
Nick
In the town I live in, there are quite a few yobs and those who seem to like to pick fights at every avaiable oppotunity, granted that it is quite quiet compared to some towns but still you have to weary (as with anywhere I guess).
The thing that gets to be, is that I feel intimidated by these yobs, that I feel inside I seem to sterotype certain people into automatically being 'these types' of people.
It takes alot to say and I guess I'm actually scared of these people even though somewhere inside I knew that if it came to it I could defend myself. I feel intimidated by them and I think this generally comes from a lack of self esteem and self confidence that I have been plagued with for a long time.
What bothers me is that soon I will be training to be a police officer, first a university and then actually on the beat and yet I still feel intimidated by these people, I have had no first hand experience but I seriously want to learn this, how to handle situations, be confident and be able to walk out my local supermarket and not feel threatened by some punk from my year who I know given that I look at him he is likely to start a fight?!
I know this is purely a pyschological aspect but how do you guys control the situation. I know that it should be you who controlls the situation both situationally and mentally but how do you do this, I appreciate any replies but especially from Police and other security officers, bouncers etc. Do you not feel intimidated by others, especially criminals or guys causing trouble? How do you deal with it?
I'm not generally somebody, as others have told me also, who comes across as the victim type, but I've been bordering on adopting a 'hard' type attitude however I feel this conflicts with my buddhism on not feeding my ego, is this possible, to give this correct outlook?
Replies really appreciated!
Regards
Nick