I would say, the more technical you get with the concept of use of force, the more your treatment of either equalizes—but not many people think that way, for the simple reason it takes years of training in martial arts and RBSD to understand the line between too much and too little.It's also possible that people are fully aware of these biases, and don't care. A lot of guys want to be that hero that saves the damsel, and they don't care who's in the wrong.
If you're a short wimpy guy, you're going to know not to cross a guy twice your size that you know could snap you like a twig. Otherwise, when it happens, nobody's gonna feel sorry for you when they see it happening to you, and they're not gonna try to step in and save you.
The same can't be said of women.
That's why I find the argument that men need to be more passive with women on the account of having greater physical strength to be disingenuous. Otherwise, it would also apply to dealings with physically weaker men as well. But it doesn't. Physically weaker men are expected to know better. Women aren't.
I'd love to address to this, but that rabbit hole will detract from the subject of this thread.