LoneRider
Purple Belt
Seeing how I lost this post in that big kerfuddle that was Martial Talk Forum's latest IT problem (despite our tech's best efforts) I figure I'll repost it. I apologize for any perceived misogyny in this post.
I recently came back from a tour of duty in Iraq with the US Navy (and I transfer to the US Army as an Engineer Officer. I'm psyched to do it.) and it's made me appreciate the simple things in life. Running water. The taste of a freshly grilled steak. Cooking my own meals. Just being able to walk off base without a convoy or a platoon.
It's also helped me put some priorities together. I won't always have the Army and later Army National Guard. I'd like to find someone special but I sometimes wonder why the good women almost invariably seem to be taken. I'm not discouraged or suicidal or anything just mildly frustrated. It seems every time I meet a woman that has the four traits I find essential in a woman she is already taken.
Sometimes it feels like my dating pool is small. I'm no racist but I tend to prefer white women over other races (for some reason Asian women remind me too much of my relatives to be attractive and I can't think to date them). The sad thing is it seems most white women don't like Filipino men for whatever reason.
My three traits I deem essential (all are equally important. They're not one more important than the other) that I will not compromise on are thus:
My greatest fear (I'll risk baring myself on that) is that I'll be splattered all over the inside of my MRAP on some cold, dark and lonely road in Afghanistan before I ever find that love. That's the one big fear that lurks under me and at times even keeps me awake at night...
I recently came back from a tour of duty in Iraq with the US Navy (and I transfer to the US Army as an Engineer Officer. I'm psyched to do it.) and it's made me appreciate the simple things in life. Running water. The taste of a freshly grilled steak. Cooking my own meals. Just being able to walk off base without a convoy or a platoon.
It's also helped me put some priorities together. I won't always have the Army and later Army National Guard. I'd like to find someone special but I sometimes wonder why the good women almost invariably seem to be taken. I'm not discouraged or suicidal or anything just mildly frustrated. It seems every time I meet a woman that has the four traits I find essential in a woman she is already taken.
Sometimes it feels like my dating pool is small. I'm no racist but I tend to prefer white women over other races (for some reason Asian women remind me too much of my relatives to be attractive and I can't think to date them). The sad thing is it seems most white women don't like Filipino men for whatever reason.
My three traits I deem essential (all are equally important. They're not one more important than the other) that I will not compromise on are thus:
- Intellect - I don't want to date a complete dunce. I like having intelligent and spirited conversation on dates.
- Personality - Kindness and compassion are HUGE turnons for me. A woman who is attractive and kind and gentle will set my heart aflame easily. And if she's a dog person that's
- Appearance - All the intellect and personality in the world can't quite help if I can't look at her or she makes me nauseous when I look at her. I'm sorry if I sound insensitive but it's sadly the truth.
My greatest fear (I'll risk baring myself on that) is that I'll be splattered all over the inside of my MRAP on some cold, dark and lonely road in Afghanistan before I ever find that love. That's the one big fear that lurks under me and at times even keeps me awake at night...