Steve
Mostly Harmless
Okay, I'll take another stab at this and let it go, because it's clearly a sensitive issue with you guys.Sexual harassment and assault aren't the same thing. They're not even in the same league. Not that I condone harassment but saying words (harassment) is not the same as putting your hands on them (assault). The law treats them differently, at least in the US. As a federal employee, I have this stuff stuffed down my throat on a continuous basis. As for harassment being illegal, it's not. I could walk up to a woman and make lewd comments and there's not anything she could do about it other than file a restraining order if I continue to do it. As soon as my hand touches her, say grabbing her ***, that's assault and I could wind up in jail. In a work environment, many companies have policies in place to discourage said behavior though as it doesn't make for a productive work environment with harassment being allowed.
Sexual Harassment is illegal. It is an illegal activity that exists in the workplace.
As you say, making lewd comments outside of work is douchey, but not illegal. Making lewd comments at work, to the extent that a hostile work environment has been created is called Sexual Harassment, and is illegal. You're confusing the general act of harassing someone with the legal term, "Harassment."
Guys, harassment can involve unwelcome sexual advances or touching while at work. As DD pointed out, sexual harassment and sexual assault at work are often the same thing.
@Jenna, the only reason I'm trying to highlight the distinction here is that it is very unhelpful when one person is talking about one thing and another is talking about something else. Watergal mentioned a person being groped while at work and highlighted a reality that a lot of people (mostly women) face that goes unreported, where someone you trust or who is in a position of authority is abusing that authority. In my opinion, self defense is contextual. The right thing to do in one situation is not the same as in others, and truly, sometimes, it's not so easy. As some here have pointed out, if the person is a drunk family member, a long time friend of the family, a coworker, a boss... all of that comes into play. A lewd comment is not the same thing as a grope, which isn't the same thing as rape, which isn't attempted murder. Conflating all of these things and talking about them all as though the right response is to break the bad guy just isn't helpful or realistic. In my opinion.
And the defensive reactions I got were telling. We have a few guys here who think they know what women should do, are arguing with women who are trying to articulate their experiences, and get butthurt when a thread about women's self defense doesn't also consider that men are sometimes also sexually harassed (an important discussion, but not the subject of this thread).