Shooting is like buying a car for a person who enjoys driving. Some like 4x4's others like dump trucks while others like to have just a small car to move them while others like the sports car.
Finding the right gun that a person likes to hold and shoot is important because if a person does not enjoy it they will not do it.
That was the thought that was running through my mind as well. I was driving the guy at the store nuts because I just kept saying. "Let her hold that one." Now let her hold that one, now that one, etc." The poor guy never figured it out, and kept putting each gun away, only to have to drag it out again. I just had her keep cycling through until she found the one that was the most natural fit, including semi's and revolvers.
She had already decided that a 9mm was too small for her, so that basically left .357's (which she already has one, and doesn't like it), .40's or .45's.
Unfortunately they don't have a test drive type program, nor can you rent guns from the shooting range. But she really liked the .40 when she fired the first few rounds. It has a low recoil, and isn't very loud, compared to what she expected. She is very pleased with it, and I expect that she'll enjoy plinking with it a lot.
My Dad, a hard-core double-action revolver type, also liked the grip safety, as well as the internal safeties. So it got his approval, too.
One question -- are the XD's okay to dry fire, like the Glocks? I told her to do a lot dry firing to get used to the gun, but I need to know if she needs snap caps for that?