Greetings! I'm looking to get back into martials arts. I am looking for something not competitive, but rather very oriented toward self defense and real-life scenarios. I want something generalist, such as jujitsu. As long as it is effective in real-life scenarios. My wife might also want to train with me, so that she may learn to defend herself against potential aggressors. We are both 25 years old. With that in mind, perhaps you'll help me with my dilemma. There are three interesting dojos in Montreal (if anyone here from Montreal, feel free to recommend any dojo that I may have not noticed). I'll list the art taught by each of these three. 1- Aikibudo. I had no idea what it was until googling it. It seems interesting, but I have a few questions about it. 1.1 Does it teach atemi waza (striking techniques)? 1.2 Does it teach ne waza (ground grappling)? 1.3 From the videos, it looked very circular, like a choregraphy, but I'm not sure if this is just because it was a demonstration. Is it effective in real-life scenarios for beginners, or is it rather like aikido, where you would have to train a lot before it becomes (very) effective? 1.4 Is it closer to aikido, or jujitsu, in terms of techniques? 2- Aiki jujitsu. Note that it is not Daito ryu. This one seems very much generalist and oriented toward self-defense. 2.1 Does it teach atemi waza? 2.2 Is it closer to aikido or jujitsu? 3- Ninjutsu. Note that it is not Bujinkan, or at least I don't think it is, as this word appears nowhere on their website. This is the most mysterious to me. Clearly ninjutsu dojos today won't train us to become Ninja assassins (I'm not kidding myself). 3.1 How is it different from, say, jujitsu? 3.2 Does it rely a lot of weaponry, or not so much? All in all, while keeping in mind that each dojo has its own peculiarities, which of these three martial arts would you recommend the most for real-life and effective self-defense scenarios? Is there anything I should know about any of these martial arts? Thank you for your help!