I hear you, to be honest, I have always preferred clubs where it is much more contact focused, that's just me. As a result **** happens and I have been trashed pretty heavily in sparring at my old club which has been pretty much tournament intensity. But I have no issue with that, I like it. The thing is not to be a douche and to be able to tailor your own intensity to the level wanted by the person (be they less experienced or senior to you) you are facing off against in the club. Some very skilled fighters don't like getting their faces - - - - up out of a tournament and they are probably the smart ones. There are always idiots out there, in fact I have a bit of a rant as a mate of mine was sparring in the ring with a female fighter and she kept hitting him with inside leg attacks after the bell, it was blatant and she did it every round, I don't know why people think they need to be like that. On the fourth go he was furious and did a round house back fist and caught her with enough to make her hit the floor, I can't say I condone that against a sheila but she didn't get any of my sympathy either.