Intimidating Bouncers

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  1. Darrencowan

    Darrencowan Green Belt

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    Hi, I am a 4th degree black belt in Sanchin Ryu Karate. I am also a rock n roll journalist. I attend concerts, photograph the bands, write live reports and interview major artists. One thing that has bothered me throughout my career is the attitudes of many bouncers/security. I am there working just like them, in fact, I'm indirectly responsible for them making money, but they talk to me like I'm a nobody and try to intimidate me with their size. I feel this is a poor practice. I worked six months for a very credible firm in Austin, Texas. We didn't try to intimidate people. We first talked to them and told them what was the deal. We didn't give them this attitude of "because I said so, so shut up" that I often get from security.

    I feel this is a misstep for clubs and band management. For one, I would rather have a smaller guy who knows how to handle himself, who can calmly and rationally speak to patron without intimidation then some meathead.

    Two, these people aren't communicating who can do what. We get a pass that shows what we can and can't do, but when I get off the bus from interviewing a platinum-selling artist, I would like more respect. It's because of this, I had to end a business relationship with a club I was very fond of. Even when I approached the club owners, they still acted like I was all at fault. There was no responsibility for their missteps, what-so-ever. I feel the inability to owe up to your own mistakes is an endangered species in our society.

    As far as grappling, hand-to-hand techniques goes, I have studied and am proficient. Sanchin Ryu is very big on trapping. phil-anselmo-interview-MU.jpg
     
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    I am confused. What is the issue exactly?
     
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    ballen0351 Sr. Grandmaster

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    I think he's upset people are not kissing his butt at the clubs
     
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    Kickboxer101 Master Black Belt

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    Boo hoo are they not being very nice? That's life get on with it and also umm what does your grappling skills have to do with this?
     
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    Yeah, not sure how your martial arts rank or your grappling ability have anything to do with the issue of being given "respect" by bouncers at a club. Are you wanting acknowledgment that you could beat them in a fight? Why is that relevant to anything? If you're living your life right you should never be getting into a fight with a bouncer in a club.

    A rule of thumb I follow regarding respect is this: I try to be respectful towards everyone. I don't worry about what level of respect they give or don't give to me. This approach tends to minimize stress in my life. Might want to give it a try.

    Another thought to consider: If you encounter a bouncer who seems to be rude to you, then it's likely that person is just a jerk. If all the bouncers you encounter seem rude, then perhaps the problem is on the other end. (BTW - this is a useful heuristic for other interpersonal relationships as well.)
     
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    Lol Most don't talk down to anybody. What do you expect, one to stand there and hand you a bunch of flowers. Camera = heavy object = potentially blunt force trauma. If looking out for that sort of thing means being a bit curt, and laughing like a hyena then so be it.

    Suggest you doing the job and find out for yourself how "please don't do that" does not work. "Because I said so" does.
     
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    You could stop using urinals and use a cubicle instead? :rolleyes:
     
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    huh?

    huh?
     
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    That was Tez being a bit saucy. She does that kind of a lot. :D
     
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    Moi? people should be specific when posting, not vague, size after all isn't everything......... ;)
     
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    Mmmh... maybe the bouncers were worried about that ego not fitting through the door.
     
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    Well as long as you're not acting like a punk they should have no issues with you...
     
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    The first thing I do when I go to a club is make sure to intimidate the bouncers.
     
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    Don't feed the troll, please.
     
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    That was not my intent if I am one of those who have. I was just professionally curious.
     
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    You too!!! Awesome....must be a Xuefu thing :D
     
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    Well I AM the West Coast Regional Manager, after all.
     
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    so pretty much royalty
     
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    I'm just waiting for the founder to kick off, so I can take over.

    Did I just say that out loud? Damn brain-to-mouth filter malfunction...
     
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