Hard decision to make

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  1. bookworm_cn317

    bookworm_cn317 2nd Black Belt

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    One of the things on my Christmas list is a gym membership. On the way to school this morning, my mom said she couldn't afford BOTH a gym membership AND TKD lessons, so I would have to choose between the two.

    I want both, but I know my mom can't afford it. Who knows--maybe my grandpa will get it for me, right?

    If I quit TKD, I'll disappoint a lot of people(myself included). AND I'll miss my TKD family.

    I'm torn. I don't know what to do. :(
     
  2. arnisador

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    What do you get from TKD, and what would you want from going to the gym?
     
  3. Drac

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    Ya beat me to asking the same question.....Me personallly the gym would go..You can always do a workout at home...
     
  4. BrandonLucas

    BrandonLucas 3rd Black Belt

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    If I were making the decision, I would choose to stay in TKD. You can get a great workout from TKD, and it's more rewarding in the long-run. Besides, like you said, someone else may be able to help you out with the gym membership. I just think that TKD would be the higher priority.
     
  5. arnisador

    arnisador Sr. Grandmaster

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    There may be a health issue that the gym addresses. I'm sitting out of class right now while I rehab my knee (ACL replacement). We don't know!
     
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    Hey bookworm, look this is what I would do
    #1 you want this gym membership for xmas, right??? as i see it there is no problem, look go to the mall and ask jolly old saint nick, but hold on that may not work out, don't know how the fat man in the red suite may feel about that(i mean look at him) anyway bookworm i'm just trying to have a little fun here
    i don't know how long you have been doing TKD? but just like the person said you can work out at home( i know that's not what you want to hear) but never give up your art, or you can leave little remarks around the house to mom, and your grandpop, or whoever, that might work,whatever happens i hope that your hoildays will be safe for you and your family:)
     
  7. Xue Sheng

    Xue Sheng All weight is underside

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    If it were me, and it is not, I would quit the Gym and spend more time training TKD. But then my wife has on multiple occasions called me "Martial Arts Crazy" so that really should come as no surprise to anyone that I would do that.

    Look at them both, which would you miss more? Which would impact your life more if it were not there?
     
  8. exile

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    The way it looks to me, BW, there are two things a gym provides:

    (i) a track for cardio. There isn't a single machine you need, unless you have very special joint issues, that is better than just plain ol' running. But the catch is, ordinary jogging as per the mantra of twenty years ago is by far less efficient than high-intensity, interval-based routines. If you work out a demanding interval routine for yourself, then for most of year you should be able to use streets, parks and so on as your running ground. Conclusion: you don't really need the gym for this.

    (ii) weights for resistance training. You cannot get stronger unless you train resistance, and advance your weights upward on a regular basis. I suspect you haven't done serious weight training before, so you're in a good position: a simple, rugged bench and a few pairs of dumbbells will be all you need for a bit (and someone to spot you, preferably). Gyms are great, really essential, if you're already weight-training and reach a level at which you need to use barbells, preferably in a protected environment such a power rack, where you can lift ridiculously heavy weights safely without a spotter because the cross-bars on the rack protect you if the weight falls. But if you haven't reached that point, you can work out productively for at least a year, probably, just using dumbells and a high quality bench that you can keep at home in your basement. Don't know what the going rate is, but they're way, way cheaper than a gym membership, and you don't have to deal with the logistics of packing your stuff and making it out the door—which is, for a lot of people apparently, the hardest part of the deal :rolleyes:

    TKD, on the other hand, you can't teach yourself. You need the dojang, and your instructor. In short—no comparison. Stick with your TKD program and work the gym program into your home schedule as much as you can.
     
  9. Xue Sheng

    Xue Sheng All weight is underside

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  10. arnisador

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    I more agree with you than disagree, but--weight-training also benefits greatly from instruction by an expert, and in both cases an instructor is also a 'coach' who offers encouragement and that matters.
     
  11. Brian King

    Brian King Master of Arts

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    Your profile says that you are 27 years old but even a young teenager can get a part time job and then be able to afford paying for their own training, for an adult it should be even easier. Relying on others (including the government) can hold back your growth while getting up and doing for ones self aids growth in so many ways. It is getting to the Christmas season and winter weather, lots of jobs out there that do not pay much and have no glory but they do provide a chance to do honest labor exercising both mind and body and provide enough cash to allow you to pay for whatever training you truly desire. It is a funny thing how working for the treasure helps you realize what you really want and what you are willing to spend it on (perhaps a gym membership for both you and your mother and something nice for your grandfather). Just my opinion your mileage may vary.

    Regards
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    P.S. XS thanks for the links good stuff

    Edit added.
    I see in another thread that you are attending college. That is great and will sure be of benefit to your future and I am sure that time and money both are tough to come by while studying. Are there any programs at the college that you are attending that can help with gym memberships? Perhaps some sports program. Is there a TKD club at the school that you might be able to participate with? A part time job delivery pizza can earn you enough to pay for both gym and martial arts memberships with just a few hours a week, do you have a car? Your posts seem well written and you seem smart, can you print up some business cards and take them to the local high schools & elementary schools and get a couple of gigs tutoring students? You also seem shy so perhaps a weekend job as waitress/waiter or bartender or some other kind of sales job working with the public can not only earn you some spending cash but can give you practice meeting and talking to people. Just some thoughts

    Good luck
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    I would suggest that you maintain the TKD program. As others have told you, there are numerous ways to work out on your own. You'll find an excellent program, with daily FREE, prescribed workouts, at Crossfit, which require very little in the way of equipment. In fact, you can build most of the gear yourself, with plans available through the site. You can't realistically teach yourself martial arts, and the discipline of the classes is also hard for most to impose on themselves.

    One other comment -- and it's going to be a bit harsh.

    Why are you still relying on Mom to fund the things you want? Find yourself some income, and you might eliminate having to choose. (In fact, many gyms offer complementary memberships to their employees... and you don't need a degree or trainer certificate to staff the front desk, among other jobs.)
     
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  14. Kacey

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    You're in college - does the college have a gym you can use? Have you check with local recreation centers and YMCAs? They often have scholarship rates available for young adults and college students. It's also possible you could get a very part time job in that type of facility and get free access in exchange. Or perhaps you could work something out with your instructor.

    What would you do with a gym membership that would make it worth more than TKD? Conversely, what would you do with TKD that would make it worth more than a gym membership? Once you look at those two questions, you can decide which would be better for you.
     
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    Like it has been said before. I'd stick with TKD. However, you have a lot of options... You (or someone else for the holidays) can invest in free weights, and build on from there. You're in college- chances are they have their own gym. If it isn't free, it's discounted, and also- you could get/ try to get a job there... While on the subject of the job, if you work at a gym, chances are good that they will give you a good discount (more than a new membership deal). Just some thoughts...
     
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    Stick with the TKD. If your pics over at MS are any kind of indicator, you don't really need the gym.
     
  17. bookworm_cn317

    bookworm_cn317 2nd Black Belt

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    Cryozombie, you saying that REALLY made my day! You're very sweet.
     
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    Cryozombie Grandmaster

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    Nah, I'm an ***, I'm just a very honest one, and I call it like I see it. ;)
     
  19. Drac

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    Yep.....
     
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    bookworm_cn317 2nd Black Belt

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    But it's still sweet of you to say that! <HUGS>123
     

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