Am I caring about others too much?

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  1. onpoint123

    onpoint123 White Belt

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    So I've started training BJJ 7-8 Weeks ago, so you'd call me the new guy right? That's what I thought.
    However, I've been left stumped recently with my training and how well its going; let me give context.
    - I'm the only White Belt with no stripes.
    - I have previous experience in Karate and Kickboxing both on a national and international level.
    - I've coached for a few years in Karate before moving into BJJ.
    - I'm 22, 80kg and in decent shape.
    So the problem that I'm having is that I'm dominating my gym/level, which sounds strange, I know. I'm rolling with mostly white and blue belts; the odd purple which I seem to be able to go sub-for-sub with. All the guys at my gym are competing every 2 months or so, and winning more often than not. This is what bothers me.
    They get very frustrated with me, or themselves, but always after they roll with me. I fight very defensively, a counter-attacker if you would. I don't gas easily as I know my way around a mat and the ways to read people and I know when and when not to go all out. These guys go all out on me, and can't land anything and I fear I'm knocking their confidence.
    I've got to the point where I'm almost giving them my arm, neck etc. just so they get some gratification and its starting to beat on me that they're getting hit back each time they roll with me:- a guy this week cancelled his next fight because he couldn't sub me after we rolled for 5 rounds (He kept demanding to roll with me even after coach told him to just chill and roll with another guy. I subbed him 4 times and won by points in the 3rd).
    I've spoke to the coach and he gave me nothing but praise and re-assured me that I'm doing fine with my method and I should keep doing it.

    Am I just being a idiot and they should just get better, or should I change my game up to accommodate my team mates training better? Its really thrashing my head.

    Sorry for the long post, but I had to get it all out in full. Thanks! :)
     
  2. jobo

    jobo Grandmaster

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    eeer, stuff them, it's their problem if they are not good enough, your problem is you need better opponents to push you

    do you think iron Mike used to let his gym buddies take turns at winning
     
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    Not sure. Seems a strange dynamic. We have had increadably physical guys dominate above their belt level. But to the extent you say just seems wrong.

    You may need to find a more competitive gym.
     
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    kempodisciple MT Moderator Staff Member

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    Yeah...kickboxing skills shouldnt transfer over that much. You should be able to beat the people with a year experience if you just dominate them phyaically, but the purple belts shouldn't have an issue with you.

    The only things i can think of are: 1. The school is advancing people too easily. 2: you're "defensive" play feels right because you're not getting subbed, and it feels like you're winning or going sub for sub, but your really just biding it out all the time. (Doesnt sound likely from what you said) 3: you're being unreasonably rough for practice so people are just complying with you. The guy who cancelled his fight could be super thickheaded, although id hope the coach would tell you to turn it down a notch, 4: they all just suck (hopefully not if they're winning competitions or matches fairly regularly) 5: something i didnt think of or 6: you're bored and made up a story for fun (doesnt seem like it, but you never know).

    Except that last one, my advice is largely the same. Don't worry about other people's reactions, unless its an issue. If its becoming an issue talk to your coach to see what's wrong. Go to some competitions, and if it seems like they're all getting thrashed, switch schools (probably to whoevers doing the thrashing)
     
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    dvcochran Senior Master

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    This does seem odd. Why don't you see if you can train with some more advanced people at you gym, if nothing else to see where you fall in your gyms skill level? Certainly no harm auditing some other gyms to see if the same thing tracks there as well.
     
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  6. onpoint123

    onpoint123 White Belt

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    This has got a few idea’s in my head, so cheers. I’ll speak to my coach about letting me roll with people higher in the food chain. I must add though, I didn’t go into BJJ blind, I knew fundamentals. But again, thanks
     
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    kempodisciple MT Moderator Staff Member

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    Sounds smart. Let us know how it goes. And feel free to participate in the forum a bit, always good to get more perspecties :)
     
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    Buka MT Moderator Staff Member

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    It's free.
     
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    Headhunter Senior Master

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    Honestly I'm finding it very hard to believe that your beating blue belts and experienced white belts with just kickboxing and karate. Unless those guys really really really suck
     
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    I see two plausible narratives here.

    1) your school sucks/grades way too lightly.

    2) you are some sort of 'ryan hall'esque prodigy at grappling.

    In both scenarios you need a more competitive school.
     
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    Man, I'd love to have someone like that to train with - either as an instructor or as a student (meaning me in either of those roles). Fitness and general athleticism goes a long way. And if you really learned body mechanics well in your other training (meaning controlling their body, rather than just how to spar with striking), then your training is contributing, too. Most folks in BJJ should understand that. They'll get over their frustration once they get used to the fact that it's you, not them. If I was a purple or brown belt in that school, I'd be trying to get some mat time with you, to see what it is you're doing that's working so well against the blues. That's useful information.

    So, keep playing defensive. When someone does something that works on you, let them know you enjoyed that. Ask the instructor if you can have some more time with the purples - he/she should be aware you're dominating in the group he'd normally have people working in. Also, challenge yourself. Pick your finish before you start sometimes, so you are only working toward an arm bar on this next guy, and it doesn't matter what else he gives you. The next guy, you gotta get RNC on, etc. This will give you more of a challenge and them more of a chance, without you having to actually go easy and give them openings.
     
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    Or 3 he's over exaggerating his abilities. Not saying he is but...well the story is very unique. Even guys like Bj penn got beaten easily when they first started
     
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    it doesn't seem that implausible that some one who is 22 and 180 lB of bones and muscle and good movement,can easily dominate a beginners class just on a few simple techniques and his superior physical capabilities, it rather depends on where his compatriots are in terms of fitness
     
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