Yeah, I know. I think that's one of the things that scares the hell out of me. I'm somewhat older than my wife and figure (barring accident) that I'll die long before she does. Our children are from my previous marriage and she and I won't be having any. I think that the time alone at work today got me to thinking what Erica's life would be like after I'm gone if she were to wind up in a nursing home. For the first time in many a year I had tears in my eyes from just thinking about a "what if".
My mother has told me stories from her 30 plus years as a CNA. Quite often though at least one member of the staff will make an anonymous call to the state board to kick off an investigation. Many, far too many, folks in these facilities have been dumped there by family that just don't give a damn. The stories of the family members that are engaged and carring are woefully few. The problem with calling the "state" is that before anyone comes for an inspection they always call ahead. Guess which days are fully staffed and spotless.