Everyone you meet is fighting a battle...

Bill Mattocks

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The first part is good to keep in mind in our daily interactions with people. When we run into people who seem rude, nasty etc we don't know what they might be going through that's causing them to behave that way. Sure they might just be a-holes but maybe not. I guess you could interpret the second part as attack them with kindness, maybe try to improve their day. Now if they don't get moving fast enough when the light turns green cause they're looking at their phone, then a sword is called for.
 
I dont think that proverb is suggesting one should be nice but instead attack and defeat such a person because theyre unlikely to be able to handle two battles simultaneously.

Musashi believed in winning even to the point of bashing your enemys head in with a rock if you have to. Others thought this attitude was dishonourable and rather beastly but Musashi believed all is fair in war.
 
I dont think that proverb is suggesting one should be nice but instead attack and defeat such a person because theyre unlikely to be able to handle two battles simultaneously.

Musashi believed in winning even to the point of bashing your enemys head in with a rock if you have to. Others thought this attitude was dishonourable and rather beastly but Musashi believed all is fair in war.
I would have to agree.
 
Also a person with a well-developed character does not take their problems out and about with them. It is uncouth as it makes others feel awkward.
 
Also a person with a well-developed character does not take their problems out and about with them. It is uncouth as it makes others feel awkward.
You might be in the wrong forum then
 
Or sympathy at all.
Some children never grow up and feel the need for a there, there when they metaphorically skin their knee.

Sympathy should come from those closest to you.
 
Decades of keeping my pain to myself didn't help. Now I am receiving something called "Prolonged Exposure." I'm forced to restate my trauma-causing event over and over again in therapy, and to confront the things I have avoided, including not keeping my troubles to myself. I don't seek sympathy, but some understanding would be nice. I'll be happy to move along if it bothers anyone. That's what I've been doing for decades anyway.
 
Decades of keeping my pain to myself didn't help. Now I am receiving something called "Prolonged Exposure." I'm forced to restate my trauma-causing event over and over again in therapy, and to confront the things I have avoided, including not keeping my troubles to myself. I don't seek sympathy, but some understanding would be nice. I'll be happy to move along if it bothers anyone. That's what I've been doing for decades anyway.
Ive sincerely never noticed you doing this, Bill. Does it work?
 
Ive sincerely never noticed you doing this, Bill. Does it work?
I often bail on social activity for months or years at a time, usually after working myself into a state and feeling as if I've worn out my welcome. That includes MT. However, my withdrawal from society has gotten to the point where I've shut out all my remaining family and most friends. It's just me and my wife and my gardening and karate. It's become an issue, so I finally had to get help.
 
I often bail on social activity for months or years at a time, usually after working myself into a state and feeling as if I've worn out my welcome. That includes MT. However, my withdrawal from society has gotten to the point where I've shut out all my remaining family and most friends. It's just me and my wife and my gardening and karate. It's become an issue, so I finally had to get help.
I dont care for people in general, so its just my family, MA, and hobbies mostly. Im glad that therapy is helping you.
 
I often bail on social activity for months or years at a time, usually after working myself into a state and feeling as if I've worn out my welcome.
Oh I see. I have a low threshold for those referred to as emotional vampires, but other than you admitting that youre very old and your looks and teeth have all gone Ive never thought of you in anything like those terms.

Funnily enough, I was thinking earlier that there are a few people on MT who Id love to go out for a beer and visit a strip joint, but due to geography, am very unlikely to ever do so. You were on that list, Bill. (Itd be your round, all night, though)
 
I dont care for people in general, so its just my family, MA, and hobbies mostly. Im glad that therapy is helping you.
I always think Im a bit of a misanthrope, but on meeting people I quite like them (except flat earthers)
 

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