Hi people. I am new to this site so nice to meet you all.
I have an issue though, just to get straight to the point.
First lets just say i don't look like the "type who can fight". I seem very gentle, calm, relaxed and harmless for the most part. People in society seem to be very aggressive and over confident around me. People often would politely step out of the way of a say the 6ft tall 250 pound Black guy but, would somehow bump shoulders with me on the streets when clearly they could have simply stepped aside cuz there was space available to. I would get negative service at a restaurant or cashier in a department store.
I would do very little to provoke people since i am VERY polite. So polite people take it for weakness. "I" am often the one who apologizes an steps outta the way for people and, a lot of times i would still not get any respect for this from the aggressor(s). I am honestly tired of this but heres the problem.
Well i wouldn't call it a problem...
Anyways my Sifu has installed many principles and morals in me concerning softness and flow through the art of Wing Chun. I have lost a lot of my aggressiveness over the years (though once in a while i lose it but very rarely). I am so kind and "too nice" as some friends have told me.
Thing is, i have been in numerous full contact spar matches w/different kinds of people. I've been hit in the throat, privates, fractured a few ribs, etc etc. Through these painful experiences i also slightly improved my actual fighting abilities to the point that weeks later i'd often beat these same opponents. I have also been randomly attacked in real life and for the most part reacted decently. Now through all this experience, i feel there is little i need to prove to anyone. I don't need to go out and show machismo just to prove my worth. I rather would live in peace and dignity. Sure i'd like some more real full contact spars here and there just to test what i learn out but, i don't need to invite a fight. Wing Chun is for the protection and safety of your own and loved ones well being. Only with this mentality will you be able to remain calm and control the violent situations. getting very upset and letting your emotions control YOU will cause your body to overflow with nervous adreniline and thus you no longer will be soft. i know this.
But since i am so "weak" looking, i've had many people attempt to abuse me in many ways. I've also had people who don't know my background always joking how if i'd piss so and so off i'd get my *** kicked, etc etc. Thats fine.
Sifu DID say by not self promoting yourself, the element of surprise will be on YOUR side. I believe him.
Its just i DO get a little irritated being underestimated all the time.
Any other Wing Chun artist go through what i go through??? how does it feel and what keeps you calm like water???
Any other Wing Chun artist ever felt like screaming
"I am not a weak pushover! Stop underestimating me!!!" anytime in your development???
I have an issue though, just to get straight to the point.
First lets just say i don't look like the "type who can fight". I seem very gentle, calm, relaxed and harmless for the most part. People in society seem to be very aggressive and over confident around me. People often would politely step out of the way of a say the 6ft tall 250 pound Black guy but, would somehow bump shoulders with me on the streets when clearly they could have simply stepped aside cuz there was space available to. I would get negative service at a restaurant or cashier in a department store.
I would do very little to provoke people since i am VERY polite. So polite people take it for weakness. "I" am often the one who apologizes an steps outta the way for people and, a lot of times i would still not get any respect for this from the aggressor(s). I am honestly tired of this but heres the problem.
Well i wouldn't call it a problem...
Anyways my Sifu has installed many principles and morals in me concerning softness and flow through the art of Wing Chun. I have lost a lot of my aggressiveness over the years (though once in a while i lose it but very rarely). I am so kind and "too nice" as some friends have told me.
Thing is, i have been in numerous full contact spar matches w/different kinds of people. I've been hit in the throat, privates, fractured a few ribs, etc etc. Through these painful experiences i also slightly improved my actual fighting abilities to the point that weeks later i'd often beat these same opponents. I have also been randomly attacked in real life and for the most part reacted decently. Now through all this experience, i feel there is little i need to prove to anyone. I don't need to go out and show machismo just to prove my worth. I rather would live in peace and dignity. Sure i'd like some more real full contact spars here and there just to test what i learn out but, i don't need to invite a fight. Wing Chun is for the protection and safety of your own and loved ones well being. Only with this mentality will you be able to remain calm and control the violent situations. getting very upset and letting your emotions control YOU will cause your body to overflow with nervous adreniline and thus you no longer will be soft. i know this.
But since i am so "weak" looking, i've had many people attempt to abuse me in many ways. I've also had people who don't know my background always joking how if i'd piss so and so off i'd get my *** kicked, etc etc. Thats fine.
Sifu DID say by not self promoting yourself, the element of surprise will be on YOUR side. I believe him.
Its just i DO get a little irritated being underestimated all the time.
Any other Wing Chun artist go through what i go through??? how does it feel and what keeps you calm like water???
Any other Wing Chun artist ever felt like screaming
"I am not a weak pushover! Stop underestimating me!!!" anytime in your development???