- Jul 9, 2008
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- Covington, WA
While my views on this subject have evolved over time, I do still think the above is true. In my opinion, some kind of societal reset is needed because while men generally agree that sexual assault is bad, I believe there is a fundamental misunderstanding that many things men think are fine and dandy are, in fact, sexual assault. It's that disconnect between the big concept of what is wrong, and the details of what that thing actually is. So, in the post above, stealing is wrong, but downloading music somehow doesn't count as stealing.I agree. It's the cognitive dissonance at work, similar to kids who steal movies or music off of Usenet or a torrents site. Most know that stealing is illegal and would never steal from a store. The issue isn't whether or not they understand that stealing is wrong. They just don't see downloading music from a website as stealing. It's a disconnect that has resulted because society at large has sent mixed signals. Same thing in a frat house. The culture of the Greek System is, in my experience, broken and dysfunctional, where excessive drinking as a means of "getting laid" is presented as something other than rape. The culture of the group creates a disconnect where the behavior is excused and understood to be something other than the behavior that is considered immoral.
For example, there has been since this thread was started 9 years ago, a concerted effort to train young men that a woman who is unconscious is not fair game. What do you do when a young lady passes out at a party? You make sure she's safe and that she gets home safely. That's what. And I really believe that efforts to make this clear have made a difference, at least in some areas.
Guys like Brett Kavanaugh... there's no question in my mind that he did the things he was accused of doing. I also think, in his mind, those things he and his friends did weren't wrong.